05/11/2025
You know, interesting part about being an EOL Grief Doula+++, is you get to fill the most interesting requests. After this one was filled, several people requested a copy. Probably because know one could understand anything I was saying while crying 😅😆
Maybe you need one too. Its ok, to not be ok. You will be someday. Pinky promise.😘..
Written for Mending Mother's Day, 2025
For those of us whose mothers fell short of even their own expectations because they were the sole breadwinner and were always at work...
For those of us who felt ignored, neglected or abandoned by our mother's during our upbringing...
For those of us who have suffered difficult and strained relations with our mothers because of abuse, neglect, or ignorance, and struggle with forgiveness...
For those of us whose Mothers have crossed over forever robbing us the opportunity of reconciliation, absolution, or expression of understanding...
For those of us whose mothers suffer from mental illness, creating obstacles for demonstrations of love and clear communication...
For those of us who lost a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or SIDS, abruptly changing the course of our trajectory of hope into a spiral of confusion...
For those of us who were forced to relinquish our opportunity for motherhood through abortion or adoption and will forever grieve what might have been...
For those of us experiencing grief because our baby, is transitioning to a different gender than assigned at birth and while we didn't loose the person, we lost the experience of a projected future path; our ideas, hopes and dreams attached to our birth child...
For those of us who have lost a child through a terminal illness or chatastrophic accident...
For those of us who were powerless to protect our children from a situation that they hold us responsible for and harbor resentment against us that almost seems unbareable some days and often hopeless to recover and overcome...
For those of us who are estranged from our adult children, disenfranchising us from celebrations of love and admiration...
For those of us whose children are lost to us through addictions, imprisonment, or mental illness, straining our relationships and open expressions of love...
For those of us who know something isn't quite right and we feel like somehow we must have failed and our kids just didn't get the memo...
For all these reasons and other unspeakable horrors and sorrows, we ask for healing from the etherial realm.
You have been heard. You have been seen.
Let's look around our lives and acknowledge and give thanks for those who step in where others go out, for those who provide a safe place for our deepest expressions of sadness and loss, for those who grieve with us, hold space with us, know our shadows and sorrows and asure us we are not alone; and for those who are sent to us to introduce a new perspective to us to aid in healing our wounds.
Let us be lifted in spirit knowing we do not carry this burden of grief alone. Surround us in healing love and divine light, so that we may make peace with our paths; our journey of awakening to a new understanding, gnostism and a forgiveness beyond the scope of our limited imagination.
Blessed be🙏🙌
~WRC