10/09/2025
I hear this so often from women in the SurThriver Community, where they had partners who threatens to break up every time there’s an argument, only to pull them back in.
This is how trauma bonds often begin. The abuser pushes you away, then stops you from leaving. Leaving you scared, having doubts, and trapped from an emotional pull you get in the relationship.
Most of the times, this toxic dynamic comes from his own fear of abandonment. He craves the feeling of being wanted, so he tests whether you’ll chase him, whether you’ll stay, or whether you can’t let go. That's how controlling they can be.
Real love doesn’t punish you with ultimatums or test your loyalty. Real love allows space for conflict, repair, and true connection. You deserve that kind of love. You deserve freedom from manipulation, fear, and the emotional rollercoaster of a trauma bond.
💗 And if this hits home, please remember that you don’t have to go through this alone anymore. Being in a trauma bond for 8 years gave me the purpose to build the SurThriver Community. A safe space where women who’ve been through similar struggles can finally feel supported and heard. Here, you’re not just surviving, you’re healing! And so many women are beside you, helping you find the freedom to live your life on your own terms!
💬 Comment “THRIVE” now and I’ll send you the link to join us today.