The Delightful Counselor

02/04/2025

You may be gentle parenting, but these kids most certainly aren’t always gentle children-ing. 😅 It’s easy to imagine it all when they’re hypothetical, right? But here’s the kicker—parenthood can be triggering too… Who would’ve thought?! 🤯

This is so common, and you’re not alone. Here’s how to cool your system when you feel activated:

Take a deep cleansing breath. 🌬️
Ground yourself by engaging your five senses. 👂👀👂
Acknowledge the reality: this is tough, and everyone’s feeling all the feels. 🌀
Look for the wins, no matter how small. 🏆

Remember: practice makes progress, so carve out time each day to get grounded.

Need some guidance? Head to the link in my bio to sign up for a consultation.

02/03/2025

Of course, life doesn’t always give us what we expect. But they don’t always tell you that you’ll grieve what you didn’t have—the moments you thought would be yours. 💔

It’s natural, but it doesn’t hurt any less. Sometimes, we just ride the wave. 🌊

What helps is doing it with support—and practicing mindfulness. Acknowledge the pain, take a deep breath, and be with it. 💭

How do you approach grief around missed expectations? Let me know below 👇🏽 I’d love to hear your thoughts.

12/07/2023

In 2024 let’s reclaim our power 🔋 like our desire to reclaim our time ⏰.

How?

By taking care of ourselves. Like seriously taking the time to get to know you, and then nurturing the soul you find.

You do this by:

🛁 Going beyond warm baths
🩻 Seriously taking care of yourself (mind, body, spirit)
🧘‍♀️ Radically accepting who you are

Don’t worry this isn’t something that comes natural to anyone! A therapist that vibes well with you can help!

Let me know in the comments how you plan to take care of yourself.

12/06/2023

Have you asked your professional these big questions? Whenever I am doing a new consult here are the FAQs that come up the most often, answered and ready to go.

Now that these are answered what are you big questions?

11/19/2022

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10/14/2021

Here is a cheat sheet for strengthening your voice. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Sometimes what keeps you from expressing your pain, is that you have no idea how to express it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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In this case, many people won't say anything at all. Try 👇🏽⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏽 Journaling ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏽 Talking to an animal 🐶⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏽 Creating voice memos⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏽 Writing notes you never send⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Notice none of these involve another human. This cutes out worry of judgement and being invalidated or misunderstood. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Also, be sure to safeguard your possessions if you plan to utilize one of these tips?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Have you done one of these activities? Share your experience in the comments.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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10/13/2021

Suffering in silence is the hardest part of dealing with infertility. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I didn't know who to speak to or turn to about what was happening to me. So I didn't.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And the suffering continued. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's time to break down the taboo of fertility impairment, birth trauma, and difficult experiences of pregnancy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

09/29/2021

It's time to normalize feeling other emotions aside from happiness in the journey to parenthood. 🤰🏽⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Even people who have had children feel a range of emotions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's not always blissful and sweet! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And that's okay. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If we want to break stigmas and talk about it more, we have to learn how to acknowledging and accepting all of the emotions that come with it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

09/27/2021

Trying to change what is problematic in your life is an uncomfortable process. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What you'll find along the way is that people around you may be benefitting from the chaos and problems in your life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It's okay to acknowledge this and then make those changes anyway! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Who here has run into issues making changes in their life?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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09/23/2021

Every time you find yourself avoiding your needs to satisfy other's moods you're quieting your soul. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We all have desires, needs, and wants. Sometimes those things may cause discomfort for others (ie, I'm going to the space, you'll have to watch the baby).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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But that shouldn't mean your needs don't get met. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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06/17/2021

There is BIG POWER in stillness!!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And you can engage in self-care by being still. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Too often society addresses self-care as if it is a series of actions one takes. These actions are often associated with some kind of monetary thing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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For instance: you'll see people associate self-care with getting a manicure or pedicure or self-care with buying yourself flowers. And while those things are nice it doesn't have to be that at all. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Self-care is also just letting your mind focus on your breath and the sensations in your body. Self-care is the act of noticing too! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So take some time today to prioritize yourself. Enjoy the act of noticing, and see what comes up for you.

06/08/2021

The perinatal journey can be riddled with self-doubt. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Know, that your body can believe you with the information you need. You just have to trust it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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For some this is tough. You have felt betrayed and angry. That's okay. Give yourself the grace you need to move forward. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀