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Always Have Faith to Shine Light on your Path, 50 Francis Street, Holbrook, MA (2025)

08/23/2025

One of the greatest disservices you can bring upon someone who speaks on their experiences at life, is tell them something doesn't matter or didn't happen In their own story. 🌋

It can take an aggressive psychological hold on anybody vulnerable to doubting their reality or identity or ability to trust. It's serious catastrophic stuff for some. ☄️

Within the Powers of Humanity, Observation, and Perspective, It’s certainly safe to say that just about everybody generally prefers Respect over being Gaslit or Dishonored. Right? Fairly obvious you would think. But I bring this topic up a lot, because I see the inflictions way too often like a plague, the way people don't give a s**t for nothin’ or nobody. Yet they're out there as a part of the community or up in somebody's life with disruptive pointless fake nonsense acting as though they care. 🥴

Intended or not, Invalidation leads to the cores of confrontation, so if we can better understand where the invalidation is coming from, we will see all of the endless little moments of choice and opportunity to heal, help or be honest with someone; instead of hurting or harming through introverted confrontation being just one example referencing the way we receive one another's energy. ☯️

So, when it comes time to make and execute decisions, let’s choose common ground and healthy, valued communication styles when life gets confrontationally overwhelming. One very valuable people skill I've studied closely these past few years, to mitigate stress especially, is, simply, practicing mental reminders that everyone sees things differently and really have whole ass lives going on for real. 🤷

Accountability does outrank blame though, it’s like an anecdote if the language is worded correctly… since blame truly can be a corruptive complex poison to healing or justice or relationships or trust. Next time you're on the spectrum, and you get a second to visualize confrontational scenarios you are unsure about, pick one of these better coordinated merciful approaches while you're working situations out that require care or delicacy, there is a blessing that follows in return every time we show mercy, one way or another, take it: 🤌

Showing mercy typically costs very little, right, but holding grudges? That'll cost you any and everything in your lifetime. At least parts of it you can never get back. Plant seeds that mean well, one's that we have control of. Give them your best before giving up on them. You don't need to be articulate or compassionate to be kind and respect all Life, as it is. 🏙

Appreciation over Disregarding
Balance over Extremities
Commitment over Rejection
Commonality over Division
Conflict Resolution over Put-Downs
Effective Communication over Ignorance
Empathy over Aggression
Honesty over Manipulations
Independency over Dependency
Intimacy over Isolation
Safety over Threats/harm
Self Confidence over Insecurity
Justice over Judgements
Enlightenments over Depression
Gentle over Harsh
🩵 Love over Hate 🔥

"True courage is about knowing not when to take a life, but when to spare one". - Gandalf 🧙‍♂️

08/19/2025

"Psychological flexibility is the ability to adapt to life's difficulties while remaining true to one's values. This skill consists of six key components. Developing these traits leads to greater resilience, emotional tolerance, and overall well-being." ⚡️

I personally refer to them as the Forever Fields of Faith. Any and every troubled soul that seeks salvation is capable of navigating through psychological spirituality in this universal manner. 🛐

- Acceptance, being the first and most obvious trait to master, is more than just letting go and learning from the past. It is the result of what's persisting once you stop resisting. Embracing our inner experiences surrounding uncomfortability, pain, and emotions... leaving them open to resolution interpretation, that is the exploration every unpleasant or unfamiliar feeling deserves. 🤲

- Detachment from thoughts is essential for opening the mind to alternate perspectives. It is what maintains order and self control within our minds over mental obsessions. Grounding practices for the body is a method of exposing or challenging our fears and insecurities. There's no improper way to reject or redirect from the consumption of our poorest thoughts. The thoughts you validate, or believe about yourself and your life, ultimately do become your reality, no doubt in my mind. 💣

- Present focused perspective solely and strenuously focuses on living in the now. All of the rewind and fast forward buttons only exist in our individual psychological timelines, buried by wishes and regrets. As they say inevitably, life only matters now because it all takes place in the moment. This and every moment is all we really have, but it's also scientifically all that exists. Too much lost time from rationalizing opportunities that are gone and out of reach at this point in time. Period. ✋️

- The observation and connection of one's self, I personally believe, is the utmost due diligence we can ever do in the world. The impact from analyzing, planning, or interpreting our own experiences helps us to question ourselves with purpose. The differentiation of self begins when you connect with the full observational third person point of view of your own being, driving us to better understand our emotions and how we express them to the world. 🌎

- The clarification of values refers to the confirmation of what's most important to us. The health of virtue and lessons we live by relies on the ongoing exploration of where our values meet reality. Though we can't control the rejection or doubts or failures that trickle along the way, that is where faith ties into reality. A spiritual exercise meant to guide us into what we're really living for and leading to. Standing by, ready to stand up for yourself and your cause and the ability to create our own realities. ✊️

- The sixth and truly the most significant, essential key component, what's referred to as "values enactment". Putting our values into action. Values; they guide us in the right direction like a compass. Our journeys are made up of a million little moments that are driven or played out as a result of values from somewhere within. Something that I've deeply struggled with is reaching all of my values... acting in overwhelming support or dedication to those values. Life gets so chaotic and timeless... but we must remember why we're here each and every day, and consistently what makes up the content of our concrete goals in personal life. So that we are able to actively pour into our values in proper distribution. The art of embodiment that sprouts something new each time that we act on our values, that's where dreams meet reality. 💭🖼

08/10/2025

The Art of Language is truly underestimated, it's intangible power readily available to grasp within the very breath in our own voice and movements of our bodies. Active listening is a core element to connection, support, and love. Showing, demonstrating acknowledgement to witness those worthy of being heard. 💯

Being and feeling heard, even if it's from yourself or God or one person, is such an important grounding feeling. It's an essential aspect to building faith. A planted seed that can grow and sprout from the active light of another shining on our journey of words. Not validation, but restoration. Purifying our intentions. Cleansing our souls. Stretching our minds. ⚡️

Sounds silly to say it so literally over and over, but the impact from not feeling heard on the mental health of a broken soul is absolute and ongoing. Even if we are distracted, or multi-tasking, using appropriate verbal and non-verbal communication is the right way to assure the speaker we are focused and present. Or to wait for a better time that you can offer active listening. 🤗

There is a certain empathetic humanizing experience when you ask someone open-ended questions to be curious and understand. Striving to actually feel present, open-minded, becoming a part of their story... in real time. I've also personally found it's more appropriate for someone to simply state they aren't able to listen rather than let somebody go on like they're basically talking to a wall that won't respond or even look in your direction hahahah. Personally I think that's crazy to not acknowledge someone or to ignore for no specific stated reason. 😂

Compassionate or not, people person or not, whether you even give a damn or not; Don't be that person to make someone who's decent feel unacknowledged or bad or small about themselves just because of your prideful nature. If you don't have humbling 5 seconds or the social confidence to look at someone straight and say "I can't actively listen to you right now, (or at all) (sorry or no sorry)" >>>> then that's a problem! 🙄

Good people deserve the respect of someone actively listening or acknowledging or expressing genuine momentary incapability to listen. And EVERYONE reserves the right to tell someone you can't or aren't going to listen to them. It's not about whether they listen or not really, it's about respect. Not what you say as much as how you say it. But It's about people treating other people with remarkable decency by simply speaking with articulate intentions and straightforward remarks so that even if someone isn't able to be actively heard.... at least you know they aren't going to internalize that and damage their sense of self or kindness as a result. 🤙

Normalize not faking things... especially active listening... because the moment we betray one another's confidence, it negatively affects the original rippling impact rooted from ways of how we didn't feel heard in the past or lingered traumas. Pay Attention to the World Around You. Respect it. That is Why it is Godly to Love People or Nature by Actively Listening like So; because it Heals Both the Giver and the Receiver. 🧡

08/03/2025

Stages of Recovery

Stage 1:
“I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

Stage 2:
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in this same place. But it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Stage 3:
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I fall in. It's a habit… but my eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Stage 4:
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Stage 5:
I walk down a different street.”

The idea of this piece is about hope, it captures how we make mistakes over and over, that there is a process for correcting a mistake or poor habit through persistence. There is a powerful sense of perspective that comes with analyzing our failed efforts. Not in a critical demeanor… but a constructive, directive one. ➡️

How many of us continuously do things that aren't good for us? We know it's going to happen again… but like my therapist keeps implementing for my cycles, simply nothing changes if nothing changes, right? Quite literal, but refers to the art of choice. 🔱

What are we choosing on a regular or daily basis? Whether things happen to us on purpose or by accident or by fate… either way it happened. Life happens. You are always left with a choice of what you want, the same s**t you've been served, or something different, something better. Wisdom is the only way to navigate through our individualized failures. 🤲

Although hope isn't typically based off of something that is known, in this context, knowledge is absolute power. We can find hope from trying new things, yes. But learning from life, adopting others perspectives that give you greater views of your situation from different angles… it's hard to miss the hole then, right? The beauty of community is helping each other not to fall in those holes on the sidewalk, to show one another a different, healthier way of reacting, interacting, and engaging in life. 🌷

Remember, no matter how many people tell you about that hole or not to fall in… it is inevitably, ultimately, and essentially your choice to make that change and save yourself from suffering before it happens, especially again. You can only trip if you aren't looking where you're going. Keep your ears open as well to the intuition of others, the spirit of God, and the natural world around us. 🫂✝️🏞

07/31/2025

A fantastic favorite topic of mine in relevance to psychology and trauma, that still hasn’t had enough exposure, is the concept of how society, families, or parents of the boomer generation perceive and provide and empathize for physical injuries/disabilities versus mental, psychological, emotional or even attention deficit based disorders. Have you ever been to the emergency rooms as a severe psych patient? It’s like being a third class citizen to people with physical needs. Not the feelings that are hurt, grudges held, pain to take away, or blame to throw. We’re talking about neurological science, human nature, and literal facts here for real. 📈

Just like physical injuries or disabilities, there are specific irreversible resulting consequences. Not setbacks or scars, we’re talking about the ongoing pains and legitimate personal healing that is required in order to resurface from each trauma and live a stable life after experiencing intensive trauma of all sorts. We aren’t just referencing deep grief. Just as physical injuries distort and affect our sense of physical strength, capability, sustainability; Mental or Psychological abusive traumas distort or affect our sense of Time and Self. 🤌

So much of the day to day challenge in my recovery over the past 3 years is the endless past experiences or belongings still feeling present... reoccurring cycles of emotional repetition. Unresolved trauma inevitably plays out unconscious patterns, trying so hard to make sense in the history of pain. All the memories that got sliced and thrown in the ocean never to be referenced or replayed or loved in real time ever again. It cripples the ability to ‘move on’ and connect. That is why we need to balance or equal out the actual amount of trauma we hold to match the appropriate amount/types of therapy in healing your one of a kind soul. 🌇

This will begin to help you integrate and have a clearer, confident, coherent, compassionate sense of self and time. This requires an overwhelming amount of integrity. It takes honesty from a whole lot of truth to face no matter what that leads to. Everyone deserves safe spaces to flourish and water and grow authentically in their own individuality, originality, and healing to love our lives despite our deepest pains. Just like most things in life, that looks potentially entirely different to every single person, so have some respect and dignity for when you're speaking to or about someone who struggles with anything from anxiety to chronic past abuse. We are one people, let’s make sure we are all still acting like it, even if we don’t understand or sympathize with someone else’s story. Let people cope. Let people discover. Let people be. 😌

“If you don’t have something nice to say, then unless it’s necessary, don’t say anything at all.” - Leanne McGrath ❤️‍🩹

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