12/18/2025
𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐬𝐲𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧’𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐭.
Chronic shame.
Feeling unseen, unheard, misunderstood.
People-pleasing.
Difficulty emotionally regulating.
These aren’t random.
They’re learned responses to being consistently unmet.
Misattunement is not being met where you are.
For many, it begins in childhood —
being laughed at when vulnerable,
worry met with “you’re fine,”
fear minimized or rationalized,
excitement met with shutdown,
emotions treated as inconvenient or “too much.”
Your system adapted by tracking others,
minimizing yourself,
and staying on guard.
Repair begins with attunement —
the kind you give yourself now.
Small check-ins throughout the day:
What am I feeling?
What do I need?
And then responding.
This includes the body too —
not holding it in when you need the restroom,
allowing yawns, burps, movement, rest.
These moments teach your system:
I am listening.
And that’s how misattunement begins to heal.
💛If this landed, pause today and ask yourself:
What do I need right now?
That’s attunement.
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