Better Connection Couples Therapy

Home
Better Connection Couples Therapy

Licensed marriage and family therapist in Houston, TX. Couples, individual, and family therapy.

25/03/2022

Communication is one of the most commonly reported issues in therapy. And it makes perfect sense because if communication is mastered, then there’s a higher level of understanding of one another and faster resolution.
3 common mistakes my couples make before beginning therapy are:
1. Incorrectly interpreting what their partner means
2. Focusing on how a situation unfolded or the chronological order of things
3. Interrupting one another to get their point across, turning the conversation into a debate

How often have you experienced these common mistakes in your relationship?

24/03/2022

Triggers are tricky, especially when they’re activated in romantic relationships. We all have them though and sometimes they show up in ways we don’t want them to. Here are a few things to keep in mind so that we remain in control of our triggers and not the other way around:
1. Understand the origin of the trigger
2. Assess your emotional connection with your partner
3. Assess how you’re feeling and what you’re experiencing in your inner world
4. Acknowledge if the trigger needs to be processed with a therapist

29/12/2021

As we SWING into the new year, I thought I’d take the time to introduce myself to my new followers and update everyone on why my page has been so slow lately!

I’m Yasman 👋🏻, licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of Better Connenction Couples Therapy! Despite my practice’s name, my clients aren’t just couples. I see individuals and different family dynamics as well!

I normally use my Instagram to share nuggets of wisdom and answer questions on my story. The past 10 months or so, I slowed down because my family grew by 2 little feet 👶🏻! I’m currently on maternity leave (as all of my current clients know) and I’m planning on returning in March.

In the meantime, I’m going to try to pick up where I left off on here and post more frequently. As always, if you have any questions or would like to secure your appointment in March, my email is in my bio!

Happy New Year and see y’all in 2022! ✨💖

27/11/2021

Thank you for having me! and I sat down and talked about how difficult it can be to move on from a break up or divorce. It’s a multi step process and quite often, it’s not a linear process.

What we learn on the other end of a breakup, however, is invaluable. So many discoveries about ourselves, about the other, a more 20/20 perspective of the narrative, and possibly more confidence in what we’re searching for in a relationship.

When you reflect on past relationships, does your narrative sound different than it did when you were actually in them? 🤔

09/03/2021

Does conflict resolution feel more like tug of war or teamwork in your relationship?
Chances are if you’re pushing and pulling, most of the time, you never reach a resolution. Instead, exhaustion sets in until the next round over who knows what.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, but fighting with your partner really does require teamwork and it puts your relationship to the test.
Rather than pushing and pulling, teamwork means that by listening and validating, you’re helping your partner help you. If they feel heard and understood, they’re in a better position to do the same for you.
Of course, this takes lots of practice but here are a few tips to keep in mind:
•Try not to have these conversations when you’re in a heightened emotional state
•Focus on helping your partner understand you. If they struggle, rephrase and try again
•Use non-judgemental, non-critical language
•When your partner is finished speaking, tell them what you heard them say. This helps you improve your listening skills and lets them know you heard them correctly

08/03/2021

Happy International Women’s Day to all the lovely women and to the men who celebrate and love the beautiful women in their lives.

12/02/2021

🖤Valentine’s Day reminds us that love is a verb, that we should express it, and celebrate it.
🤍When individuals struggle with self-esteem and boundaries, we work on putting self-love into action.
🖤When couples lose their way and have a hard time connecting the way they used to, we put love into action.
🤍This Valentine’s Day, flowers and candy aside, make a commitment to put love into practice in different areas of your life, all year round.

02/02/2021

Raise your hand if you’ve been feeling extra stressed or anxious lately 🙋🏻‍♀️
Sometimes our bodies and minds need a pause and a reset. The 4-7-8 breathing technique gives your organs an extra oxygen boost. 🧘🏻‍♀️
Try this when you are feeling:
•anxious/out of control 😫
•angry 🤬
•when it’s hard to fall asleep 😴

20/01/2021

(According to Dr. Gottman’s research)
Therapy, especially couples therapy has been stigmatized as something you do if you’re in major trouble‼️.
A lot of couples wait to seek help because they believe they can handle it on their own💪🏽, or the next time it will be different✨; but, by the time they realize they’ve been in a recurring cycle for years🌀, there’s a lot of unpacking to do in the therapy room🧳.
The challenging part is that the longer the couple waits, the longer it takes to heal and work through things like resentment and betrayal🩹. I like to remind my couples to think of therapy as an annual physical. Even if things are great, it doesn’t hurt to come in for a check-up. 🩺👩‍❤️‍👨

17/01/2021

Hi! 👋🏻
Every therapist’s style is so different and I’ve mentioned before that sometimes it takes a couple tries to find the right match.
Here’s what you can expect of me as we walk the therapeutic journey together:
1. I emphasize comfort, especially now with virtual therapy sessions. I encourage you to be in your comfiest clothes curled up with your pet. I don’t expect you to say things perfectly, go on and curse if you need to. Your job is to feel 100% comfortable to be 100% you for that hour and know that you are 100% accepted.
2. I encourage laughter and playfulness. Therapy can be fun and enjoyable!
3. I see therapy as a collaborative process. You are the expert of your life. I’m here to provide a safe space to help you see, think, or behave in a way that will support your end goal.
4. You will always be heard.
5. You will always be seen.
6. You will always be validated.

To learn more, click the link in my bio! 🥰

14/01/2021

When we feel stuck in the same emotional state, we tend to behave the same as well, creating a perpetual cycle of pain and stagnation. In order to shift from one emotional state to another, we must take a look at our mindset. What’s something difficult you’re facing right now? What’s your narrative?
Pay attention to how the story you tell yourself impacts you emotionally. In short, want to feel something else? Change the narrative and view it with a different set of eyes.

12/01/2021

Sometimes a simple “sorry” will suffice in situations where you accidentally bump into someone or if you drop something when trying to hand it over. In relationships, especially when working through conflict, we need a lot more than just a “sorry”. I’m sharing this due to the amount of frustration I’ve noticed the apologizer experiences around recurring topics after saying sorry over and over again. If you find that certain issues remain unresolved despite your apology, you may be skipping one or more of the following steps:
1. Listen to the other person’s experience without judgement or interruption
2. Reflect back what you heard them say so that they know you were actively listening. DON’T get defensive
3. Validate their experience and feelings
4. Finally, when they feel heard and understood, the apology is the 🍒 on top

10/01/2021

Did you know that your relationship with your therapist is critical to successful therapeutic outcomes? In fact, the therapeutic alliance is 7 times more important than the therapy model used for treatment.
I always ask new clients if they have sought therapy before and for those who have, they express that they made the switch because they did not feel they were a good match. A good therapeutic alliance depends on 3 factors:
1. Agreement on therapeutic goals
2. Agreement on the tasks that make up therapy
3. The bond between therapist and client
If you’ve had a less than great therapeutic experience in the past, it could have been due to an incompatible therapeutic relationship. Keep looking until you find the right match! ✨

08/01/2021

🤲🏻We focus so much on using the right words to help alleviate emotional pain that we underestimate the power and value in physical touch.
🤲🏻A study conducted in 2016 took 22 heterosexual couples and subjected the female to heat induced pain. They discovered that when exposed to the pain, holding hands synchronized the brain waves between partners, significantly reducing the amount of pain experienced. In addition holding hands increased empathy in the male partners, contributing to the pain reduction.

06/01/2021

In every relationship conflict is inevitable. What Dr. John Gottman discovered in his research was that the couples who had long-lasting, stable relationships, were able to engage in 5 (or more) positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction during conflict.
Negative interactions include any criticism, defensiveness or contempt. Here are 6 examples of positive interactions that can occur during or after a disagreement:
✨Listen non-judgmentally
✨Show your partner you care by reflecting on their experience and validate their emotions
✨Express physical affection
✨Make the goal of the conversation to understand, not agree
✨Take responsibility for any hurt feelings and apologize
✨Make a repair attempt afterwards like being playful or making a joke

03/01/2021

After the honeymoon phase (about 30 months), the magical neurochemicals that made being obsessed with each other so effortless begin to wear off and the couple realizes that they have to start working to keep their relationship alive.
At this point, love becomes a choice. You choose one another every day through your verbal and non-verbal cues.
Here are 6 things that master lovers do to keep their flame burning bright:
🔥They make it a point to still express physical affection towards one another: The “can’t keep my hands off of you” phase doesn’t have to be a phase. It’s important to maintain physical contact throughout your interactions such as kissing, cuddling, and hand holding.
🔥They hold onto their own worlds: Part of what keeps the passion alive in relationships are the individual differences. Holding onto your personal interests, hobbies, and friends will help you maintain a sense of self and have new and interesting things to contribute.
🔥They still have conversations: The great part about holding onto your individual worlds is that you’ll continue to have new things to discuss. Although you each have your own worlds, it’s important to make those worlds permeable to one another by being transparent and open.
🔥They still compliment each other and express appreciation: Let each other know you still desire and value one another.
🔥They continue to date each other: Never treat your significant other like they would never leave you. Making time for one another shows that the relationship is still a priority.
🔥They aren’t afraid to ask for help: Lots of successful couples seek couples therapy to make sure they’re on track. Think of it as an annual physical for your relationship.

02/01/2021

Rumi, a Persian poet, could not have said it better. In today’s dating climate, there’s a lot of focus on the other: physical appearance, career, educational background, personality type, lifestyle, etc. And while it’s fair to take all of those factors into consideration, it’s unrealistic to only depend on those prerequisites for love.
If you’re looking for love, I suggest looking inwards first. Be introspective, self-aware, and really understand your own narrative. Because no one grows up with a pristine background, overtime we all develop defense mechanisms and methods to manage conflict or pain that could be self-sabotaging or unproductive when trying to build a romantic relationship with someone.
The solution?
Be introspective. Some people are able to easily make sense of the way they operate as adults after reflecting on their past experiences and family of origin, others need some help to connect those dots. Either way, you’ll find that once you acknowledge your barriers, their origin, and work towards awareness and change, love will follow. 💖

01/01/2021

🥳Happy New Year!
✨I applaud you for making it through this year!
✨2020 presented us with a lot of challenges. For many of us, having to distance ourselves from family and friends was one of the most challenging parts of this past year.
✨If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that our relationships make life meaningful, valuable, and colorful.
🥂Here’s to 2021 and making Better Connections.

Address

Opening Hours

Monday	09:00 - 19:00
Tuesday	09:00 - 19:00
Wednesday	09:00 - 19:00
Thursday	09:00 - 19:00
Friday	09:00 - 19:00
Saturday	09:00 - 19:00

Website

https://www.betterconnectioncouplestherapy.com/contact-us

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Better Connection Couples Therapy posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The Practice

Send a message to Better Connection Couples Therapy:

Shortcuts

Address
Opening Hours
Alerts
Contact The Practice
Claim ownership or report listing
Want your practice to be the top-listed Clinic?

Country:

City: