Inner Healing Trauma Coach

10/28/2025

What disqualifies you in the eyes of others is often what God uses to qualify you in His grace.🤍

Satan loves to whisper reminders of what went wrong, but those are echoes from a defeated voice, a liar rehearsing a story that Heaven has already edited and redeemed. 💯🔥💯

Your past is a place of reference, not residence.

Your best days aren’t coming someday — they’re being written as you walk forward in faith so live like your destiny is unfolding right now!!!👊

10/28/2025

Faith and adversity are two of the most human bridges we can build. When we learn to connect with others through these shared experiences, we create safety, empathy, and understanding that words alone can’t manufacture.

The world is so divided so why not think of ways that break down those walls and connect our lives through shared experiences?

This message was inspired by a text exchange I had with a friend this morning — someone whose journey of healing, faith, and adversity I feel deeply honored to be a part of. 🙏🤍

James 1:2–4 (NIV)
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

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Practical and powerful ways to connect with others around faith and adversity:

🌱 Lead with Vulnerability, Not Perfection

—Share your story of personal progress.

—When you talk about how your faith was tested or how you’re still healing, people feel invited to exhale — and be real too.

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💬 Ask Open, Compassionate Questions

“What helped you hold on during that season?”

“How has your faith changed over time?”

“What’s something you learned from that difficult chapter?”

These kinds of questions draw people out without judgment or agenda — they open hearts, not debates.

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🤝 Create Shared Meaning Moments

Gather around honest conversation — not preaching, but sharing.

Start a small group, coffee meet-up, or community circle where people can safely talk about the intersection of faith and hardship.

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🕊️ Offer Presence, Not Platitudes

When someone is in adversity, resist the urge to “fix.”

Sometimes the deepest faith connection is just sitting quietly with someone who’s hurting.

Your calm, non-anxious presence communicates God’s peace more than any perfect words.

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🔥 Share Stories of Hope — Not Just Victory

Tell stories that include the middle chapters, not just the endings.

“I’m still walking through this, but here’s what I’ve learned so far.”

Stories like this spark courage — people recognize themselves in your process.

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🌍 Bridge Across Beliefs

Faith and adversity are universal, not confined to one tradition.

Ask how others make sense of suffering or where they find strength.

When we honor each person’s story, connection deepens across cultural and spiritual boundaries.

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❤️ Turn Pain into Purpose Together

Volunteer, serve, or give back alongside others.

Shared service often creates spiritual bonds stronger than shared doctrine.

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10/21/2025

Approaching conflict in a marriage wisely can turn tension into deeper trust, understanding, and connection. Here’s a structured way to think about it.

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💡Start with Mindset, Not Defense💡

Before addressing the issue, pause and remind yourself: “We’re on the same team.”

• Enter the conversation with curiosity, not accusation.
• Focus on understanding rather than winning.
• Pray or reflect first if needed — calm hearts lead to better words.
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💬Communicate Feelings, Not Faults💬

Use “I feel…” statements instead of “You always…” or “You never…”

• Example: “I felt unseen when you walked away during our talk,” instead of “You never listen.”
• This invites empathy rather than defensiveness.
• Keep tone gentle and body language open (eye contact, relaxed posture).
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👂Listen to Understand, Not to Respond👂

Active listening builds safety.

• Reflect back what you hear: “So what I hear you saying is…”
• Avoid interrupting or correcting mid-sentence.
• Validate their feelings even if you disagree: “I can see how that made you feel hurt.”
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❤️Focus on the Issue, Not Character❤️

Stay focused on the specific behavior or situation, not personal attacks.

• Attack the problem, not the person.
• Avoid phrases like “You’re so…” or “You always…”
• Keep the discussion about what happened and what can change.
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🤝Seek Resolution, Not Retaliation🤝

Ask, “What can we both do differently next time?”

• Compromise where possible.
• Offer and ask for forgiveness quickly.
• If emotions are high, take a short break and agree on a time to revisit calmly.
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🙏Include Grace and Growth🙏

Healthy conflict is part of intimacy—it reveals what needs healing.

• Ask, “What is this conflict trying to teach us about ourselves?”
• Invite God (or your shared values) into the process.
• End on gratitude: “Thank you for working through this with me.”

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10/19/2025

WHAT PEOPLE ARE EXPERIENCING IN THEIR INNER HEALING TRAUMA COACHING SESSIONS:

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✨️MISSION STATEMENT✨️

My mission is to create a safe, confidential, respectful, compassionate, & supportive space for those impacted by trauma &/or spiritual oppression.

I aim to help others feel seen, heard, understood and restored through Christ-centered coaching, prayer and inner healing support.

✨️COST OF SESSIONS✨️

This service is offered freely as an expression of God’s love, mercy & grace, ensuring that financial barriers never prevent someone from receiving support & care. God has been wonderfully faithful to provide & take care of me in other ways as a result of my no cost commitment. And honestly I feel very conflicted with putting a price tag on a spiritual gift that has very much been supernaturally gifted to me for others. Im extremely humbled over & over to be used by the Lord and if you knew my past I certainly don't deserve the honor of caring such a gift.

✨️HISTORY & EXPERIENCE✨️

This ministry is tried and true, it's built upon 12 plus years of hands-on experience. Three years served in a church ministry setting. Nine years serving within a clinical setting and 3+ years in a private practice type setting. Reflecting upon my Google Calendar records, I am approaching 1,000 sessions completed. This is representative of an estimated 2,000+ hours of healing prayer and coaching. Hundreds of individuals have been served, cared for, mentored, & guided closer to Jesus the ultimate Healer of life’s deepest wounds and most horrific experiences. Every testimony and every breakthrough is to the praise and glory of God’s grace alone!!! If any wonderful thing is attributed to me I gratefully point it all back to the Lord and the work of the Holy Spirit, to which I would be nothing without.

My dedication is to helping others experience the peace, love, freedom and restoration that only God can provide.

❓️HOW DOES IT WORK❓️

Clients fill out a preliminary worksheet designed to help identify and highlight specific areas to do focused work around. We set a date/time to execute a 60 minute inner healing coaching phone call where God does the rest in the context of coaching and prayer.

10/19/2025

10/17/2025

BENEFITS OF PRACTICING FORGIVENESS:

😃 Emotional & Mental Health Benefits😀

• Reduces anger, bitterness, and resentment: Letting go of grudges releases stored tension and emotional heaviness.

• Increases peace and joy: Forgiveness restores inner calm and helps you live more in the present moment instead of replaying past hurts.

• Improves mental clarity: When you stop rehearsing pain, your mind is freer for creativity, focus, and problem-solving.

• Decreases anxiety and depression: Studies show forgiveness lowers stress hormones and promotes a greater sense of wellbeing.

💪Physical & Physiological Benefits🏋

• Lowers blood pressure and heart rate: Chronic anger and unforgiveness elevate stress hormones that harm the cardiovascular system.

• Strengthens immune response: Emotional peace supports physical healing and resilience.

• Improves sleep quality: Releasing resentment calms the nervous system, reducing insomnia and restless nights.

• Reduces body tension and pain: Emotional burdens often manifest as physical tightness, headaches, or back pain.

💫 Relational & Social Benefits 👫

• Restores broken connections: Forgiveness opens the door to repair, reconcile and rebuild trust.

• Improves communication and vulnerability: People feel safer being honest and real when forgiveness is part of the relationship culture.

• Models maturity and strength: It shows emotional intelligence and inspires others to practice grace. Someone may be greatly impacted by you modeling forgiveness in difficult situations. People are always watching.

🕊️Spiritual & Inner Growth Benefits🕊

• Aligns you with God's grace: Forgiving others mirrors how God forgives us — it deepens your spiritual maturity and creates dependence upon God's help & strength to forgive other's.

• Releases judgment: You shift from a posture of control & judgment to one of compassion and surrender.

• Frees you from bo***ge: Unforgiveness keeps you chained & attached to the offender and every time you remember or ruminate about the wrongdoing you're essentially giving your power and peace away to them over & over, while forgiveness liberates & frees you from all that and takes your power & peace back.

• Transforms pain into purpose: When you forgive, the story of your hurt becomes part of your strength and testimony.

🔑 Personal Empowerment💪

• Regains control over your life: You stop allowing the offender or the offense to dominate your emotions.

• Cultivates resilience and wisdom: Each act of forgiveness strengthens emotional muscles and teaches valuable lessons about love, boundaries, and grace.

• Restores your self-worth: Forgiving proves to yourself that you are not defined by what was done to you, but by how you rise above it.

• Creates inner freedom: Forgiveness unhooks you from bitterness and empowers you to live lighter, freer, and more joyfully. We let too many things steal our joy. Our capacity for joy sets us apart in life, nobody wants to be around a bitter nasty angry person.

10/14/2025

The Science of Appreciation & Oxytocin:

✨️🕊Appreciation= Oxytocin release🕊 ✨️

Acts as a biological “bonding agent.” It’s released during hugs, eye contact, acts of generosity, and heartfelt gratitude or appreciation.

—Mechanism: The hypothalamus produces oxytocin, which then reduces cortisol (stress hormone), increases feelings of safety, trust, and closeness, and enhances empathy circuits.

—Emotional resonance: When you express appreciation, it tells another person, “I see you, I value you, and you matter.” That message disarms defensiveness and activates relational warmth.

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Consistent expressions of appreciation create a neurochemical feedback loop that strengthens relational bonds.

👇Positive Effects on Relationships👇

✨️Increased Trust — Oxytocin promotes openness and vulnerability, which are essential for intimacy and repair.

✨️Reduced Conflict Reactivity — Appreciation lowers cortisol and amygdala activation, meaning partners or friends are less likely to react defensively.

✨️Enhanced Empathy — Oxytocin strengthens the ability to attune to others’ emotions, fostering compassion and understanding.

✨️Positive Emotional Memory — The brain begins to associate the relationship with safety, warmth, and reward, building resilience through difficult moments.

✨️Reciprocal Generosity — Appreciation inspires others to mirror it—creating a cycle of kindness, care, and emotional generosity.

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What Happens When Appreciation Is a Habit:

✨️Emotional safety increases — People let their guard down and communicate more authentically.

✨️Repair becomes easier — Even when there’s rupture or tension, appreciation acts as relational glue—reminding both sides of each other’s goodness.

✨️Identity reinforcement — Being appreciated helps a person internalize, “I am valued and seen,” which strengthens self-worth and reduces insecurity-based behaviors.

✨️Culture of honor — In families, friendships, and teams, frequent appreciation shifts the culture from criticism to celebration, from performance to partnership.

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10/14/2025

FREE VIRTUAL SUMMIT: (if you are on the brainy side this is for you)

Session 1:

Living into the Embodied Agency God Has For Us
with Curt Thompson, MD

Dr. Curt Thompson brings together interpersonal neurobiology and a Christian anthropology to educate and encourage others as they seek to fulfill their desire to feel known, valued and connected. He is the author of The Anatomy of the Soul, The Soul of Shame, and more recently, The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope.


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Session 2:

Deeply Loved: How Empathy Facilitates Attaching to God with Drs. Bill and Kristi Gaultiere

Bill and Kristi are both Drs of Psychology and the Founders of Soul Shepherding, a ministry to help pastors, leaders, churches, and all those desiring to thrive with Jesus in emotional and relational health. They are also authors of a number of soul care books, the most recent is Deeply Loved: Receiving and Reflecting God's Great Empathy for You.

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Session 3:

Why Boundaries Grow Intimacy and Independence
with Kimberly June Miller, LMFT

Kimberly June Miller is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in the integration of psychology and spirituality. Kim is the founder of Leading Wholeheartedly, a ministry that helps leaders tend to their inner lives, so that they can better serve others. She is the co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies. And prior to her work as a counselor, Kim was a campus minister with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship at Harvard University.

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Session 4:

Anxious or Avoidant Strategies of Intimacy and Independence with Lisa Cuss, LPC

Lisa Cuss is a licensed therapist (MA, LPC), speaker, and trainer who is passionate about the intersection of Psychology and Faith. In her private practice, Lisa uses trauma and attachment-informed modalities to help people journey through deep pain and stuck places to find healthier connections.
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Session 5:

Mastering Emotions to Deepen Our Relationships
with Kevin Chapman, Ph.D

Dr. Chapman is a licensed clinical psychologist with a specialty in cognitive behavioral therapy. He is the founder and director of the Kentucky Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. He leads Sound Mind Ministries and hosts The Sound Mind Show (YouTube). And he just released Mastering Our Emotions: Biblical Principles for Emotional Health.


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Sign up for free access:

https://www.embodiedfaith.life/attaching-to-god-summit-day-1-2025

02/13/2025

Thank you David for an opportunity to support you in drawing closer to the Lord for breakthrough and healing 🙏 ✨️