
07/23/2025
That explains it - but it doesn’t excuse it.
Understanding why someone did what they did doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt.
You can know someone’s trauma, upbringing, or mental health struggle and still hold them accountable.
Empathy and accountability can exist in the same breath.
You can say,
“I get it now… but it still wasn’t okay.”
Because context is not a free pass.
It gives you insight, not immunity.
Healing doesn’t mean erasing harm.
Growth doesn’t mean gaslighting yourself into pretending it didn’t happen.
So, if you’ve ever found yourself justifying someone else’s behavior to make your pain easier to sit with…
Read this again.
That explains it.
But it doesn’t excuse it.
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