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I am passionate about helping others see that their situation is not hopeless! Servicing residents of Texas via Teletherapy.

11/14/2025

Hi👋🏾 I’m Damilola (Dah-me-loh-lah)

I’m a mental health therapist for Nigerian American, first generation, and immigrant women navigating trauma, life transitions, and the work of healing while honoring where we come from.

I’m also a single mom to two boys who keep me grounded (and humble 😅).

Some things about me:

✨I talk to myself out loud when I’m processing things! My therapist says it’s healthy.
✨I’m an introvert who gets exhausted by groups pretty easily (yes, even as a therapist).
✨I’m expanding to a group practice in 2026 and I’m simultaneously terrified and excited.
✨I’m building my own version of success and it looks nothing like what I was taught.
✨I’ve been in my own therapy journey since 2020, healing from childhood trauma, a difficult marriage, and years of people-pleasing. I’m doing the work I teach and it’s messy, beautiful, and ongoing.

This page is where I share what I’m learning about boundaries, worthiness, rest, joy, and what it really looks like to break generational cycles (in real time).

If you’re here, it’s because you’re ready to do the work too. And I’m so glad you are.

If you made it this far, you are my people!

Now tell me:
💭 When did you start following me?
💭 Why do you keep showing back up?
💭 Drop an 🤎emoji if you relate to any of this

Xx,
Dami
(Your “Hope” bestie 💕)

11/12/2025

Attention: 🗣️🗣️🗣️You don’t need permission to enjoy your life. ☕️✨

But try telling that to the version of me from 2 years ago.

I used to feel guilty taking time for myself. Like if I wasn’t being productive or pouring into my kids, I was failing somehow.

Therapy taught me differently. Rest isn’t a reward… it’s a requirement.

So now on kid-free weekends? I seek adventure. Austin with my sister. Coffee from holes in walls. Pure, unapologetic joy.

If you’re healing from burnout, trauma, or a season where you gave everything and got nothing back …hear me out:

You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to have fun. You’re allowed to exist without justifying it.

That’s not selfish. That’s healing.

What’s one thing you do just for you? 💭⬇️

10/08/2025

Sometimes the red flags aren’t in your relationships… they can show up in the ways your inner child is still hurting.

Your inner child is the part of you that holds the memories and needs from when you were younger.

You might notice it in perfectionism by feeling like nothing you do is ever enough. Or you might people-please, saying yes when every part of you wants to say no.

These patterns didn’t appear out of nowhere. They were survival tools your younger self built to protect you in a world that didn’t always make you feel safe. And TBH it worked for a period of time … until it didn’t.

Here’s the thing: noticing these red flags doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

It simply means you’re starting to pay attention and you are learning to give yourself a chance to rewrite the way you show up in the world. 💛

Swipe through the carousel and see which ones feel familiar. ➡️

Save this post for later!

09/27/2025

This week stretched me, y’all. 😩

Being a single mom of two is already a lot, and when one of my kiddos got sick and then I got sick right after…whew… I just didn’t want to show up for anyone.

And in the middle of that exhaustion, the weight of my new reality hit me. This time last year, I wasn’t a single mom. While I’m at peace with my decision and know it was the best choice for me and my kids, grief still sneaks in sometimes. I’ve learned the only way through is to let myself feel it.

But even in the heaviness, there’s good.

I’m choosing gratitude. This month has been full in both personal life and business. I’m proud of the way I’ve shown up, and I’m hitting reset this weekend so I can keep pouring into my kids, my community, and myself.

Even in the hard, joy still shows up in little moments & remind me I’m moving forward.

So here’s to me remembering the little joys.

✨ Swipe through and tell me what’s one small thing you’re grateful for this week? 💛

09/17/2025

If you grew up in a Nigerian household, you already know…. Our parents def had a whole language of their own! 😂

I laugh at these phrases now, but as a therapist I also see how they shaped the way I moved through my adulthood. These words taught me how to survivor and achieve! But it also left me feeling alot of shame and pressure!

This carousel is simply my little love note to all first gen Nigerian Americans and folks across the diaspora who are still unpacking harmful childhood memories.

You are not alone and you healing is possible! There is always hope!

So, I have to know… which one did you hear the most growing up! Drop it in the comments below ⬇️ !!!

And if you are still u packing how these words shaped you, my therapy space is always open! 🤎🤎🤎

09/06/2025

Generational trauma isn’t always obvious. This weekend my mom sent me pictures of her parents. I’ve never met my grandfather, but I often wonder what he had to carry… what he had to overcome… and how much of that survival is still living in me.

That’s the truth about generational trauma… it doesn’t just disappear when the struggle ends. It shows up in the way we set boundaries, in the way we shrink our wins, in the way we caretake everyone but ourselves.

The behaviors we call “overthinking,” “people-pleasing,” or “guilt” often started as survival skills passed down through generations who had to endure much more than we can imagine.

Healing is not about blaming where we came from. It’s about learning to hold compassion for the survival strategies while also creating space for something new: thriving.

💌 Save this post for when you need a reminder that you’re not “broken.”
💌 Share this with someone who struggles with guilt, boundaries, or people-pleasing.
💌 And if you’re ready to explore healing your own generational story, my therapy practice has space for you click link in bio to connect with me to learn more.

09/02/2025

As a therapist, I’ve learned that I can only show up fully for others when I stay grounded in truth and intentional with my own thoughts. This month, these are the reminders I’m holding close.

They will be anchors I return to when life feels busy or heavy. Because the truth is that I am a working progress too!!!

Maybe you need these words too. Take what resonates and let it guide you through your week and the rest of the month. 💛

❤️

08/29/2025

Swipe through and take the words that you need today. 💛

08/20/2025

Dear….Ada, Ayomide, Fatimah, Themba, Lomi, Zuri, Sena, Adita, Eka, Idowu, Adaese, (insert your name here)

… it’s time to put you first! 💛

Taking care of yourself is not selfish . It’s a practice of self-love that many of us weren’t taught growing up. You can choose differently from what culture or family expectations demand. When you step back from upholding dysfunction in your family system, it shifts the roles everyone else plays too.

For once, wouldn’t you like to only carry the role of a daughter, instead of all the extra responsibilities you’ve carried for years? I would love to see this for you but ultimately, it’s your choice and your life.

Just a gentle reminder: first daughters need therapy too. 🌿

If you’re ready to reclaim your voice, set boundaries, and prioritize yourself, let’s connect. DM me or click the link in my bio to schedule a session.

08/15/2025

I love my culture. 🇳🇬

I love the food, the music, the way we care for our people.

But as a Nigerian American and a trauma therapist, I’ve learned that some of the lessons we grew up with can hurt us more than help us.

In therapy, I had to unlearn things that were so normal at home I didn’t even question them.

Therapy reminded me that self-worth, rest, and emotional boundaries are not “Western ideas” but that they are human needs.

If you grew up in an immigrant household, you might be carrying rules that don’t serve you anymore. This is your permission to put them down.

Drop an emoji in the comments and share with someone who needs to hear this….even if it’s just 👀, ✨, or ❤️

08/06/2025

If you’re new here, welcome!!!! This page is where healing meets culture, and where first-gen folks finally get to breathe. 💛

I’m Damilola…

…a Nigerian-American therapist, mom of two, and first-gen cycle breaker. I created this space for people like us: the ones who grew up carrying everyone’s expectations, managing emotions that weren’t ours, and feeling like we had to shrink to survive.

Here, we do things differently.

We talk about boundaries that actually stick. And we begin to live for ourselves and not just for approval.

If this feels like your people… it’s because it is.

✨ Follow for healing, humor, and unapologetic self-trust

08/03/2025

I had to unlearn a lot just to feel safe being me.

I thought being a “good” daughter meant always saying yes.

Always showing up.
Always achieving.
Always shrinking.

But over time, I realized… that version of me was surviving, not living.

But I’m learning to choose myself without guilt.

This one’s for every first-gen daughter choosing herself, even when it’s uncomfortable.

🤎Send this to someone else who’s unlearning, too.

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