05/18/2026
Something we don’t talk about enough is that relationships can feel one-sided sometimes, and that’s actually really normal.
What matters is what you do with that feeling.
Before we decide what it means, it helps to get curious first. Is this a pattern or is this a moment? And whatever it is, what is it actually based on?
Because we can so easily start believing something about our partner or our relationship without ever stopping to ask if that’s what they actually mean for us to feel. We fill in the gaps. We make sense of things the best we can. And sometimes we carry that story for a really long time.
One of the things we see so often when couples come into therapy is that they’ve been believing the wrong thing about each other for way too long, not because anyone was trying to mislead, but because no one ever got curious enough to check.
Judgment keeps us stuck in the story. Curiosity is what opens things up.
What’s something you wish you’d gotten curious about sooner?