Parent Horizons

09/05/2022

When your child is having big feeling or acting out, what you’re seeing is the bloom of the issue Not the true issue. We call this Root to Bloom. As parents our job is to look beyond the behavior (bloom) & dig down to discover the real issues at the roots. Children don’t have the tools yet to regulate themselves & they need us to model self-regulation and that’s how they learn.
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08/27/2022

I'm definitely a check list kinda girl! ✅
Anything that will help me sleep at night, there's always so much to remember.
I hope you find this helpful 🙂

08/25/2022

Going back to school can be Anxiety provoking for both children & parents. Here's a few tips I thought might be helpful.

08/20/2022

Kids getting a little bored? Take a ride to the Dollar Store or 5 Below & stock up on pool noodles. Looks like you could create hours of fun for cheap $$!

https://www.hgtv.com/design/make-and-celebrate/handmade/clever-uses-for-pool-noodles-pictures

Get kids off the electronics and into the fresh air with these fun summer activities. All you need are a few pool noodles, simple materials and creativity.

08/19/2022

Witnessing big emotions can be frightening and overwhelming.
When our kids yell, scream, "talk back", and have huge meltdowns, it can be hard to not meltdown ourselves.
Those moments are not comfortable, and at some point, we'll do anything to make it stop - yell back, threaten, punish, etc.
But in our pursuit to make ourselves feel more comfortable, we teach our children that their emotions are bad, and even that they're something to be afraid of.
There is a shift here that involves letting go our deeply-ingrained desire for comfort and instead moving into a role where we are willing to do anything it takes to support our children in even their toughest moments.
And yes, this is HARD. But building longterm connection, modeling emotional intelligence, and keeping their self-esteem intact is worth it.
At the Jai Institute, our goal is to create peace, cooperation, and connection in the home while raising happy, confident securely-attached kids that grow up to become the leaders and change makers in this world.

If you are yearning to have a deeply connected relationship with your kids, click here to learn more about my parent coaching course www.parenthorizons.com or call me 508-395-6964

08/18/2022

Model Peacefulness & your children will be peaceful!
Doesn't that sound easy?
Many of us weren't raised in peaceful homes, so we don't know how to be peaceful, regulated & calm.
Finding peace & regulation is possible, but there's work involved. It's about going back to how you were raised and what you know, making sense of it all, processing it and deciding to change the belief patterns associated with the old behaviors. In my opinion Peacefulness is worth the work!

If your interested in learning more about this topic please contact me by messenger or call 508-395-6964.

08/17/2022

When kids aren't listening you can be tempting to raise your voice or threaten punishments. And sometimes, those things work in the short-term but they actually erode our long-term goals of mutual respect, connection, and collaboration with our children.

If the goal is to have kids who want to hear what we have to say, who feel connected to us and therefore willing and ready to cooperate, it's starts with these small interactions.

Rather than yelling or punishments, what would it look like to get playful? To make it a game? Or to just step back for a moment and take a break before you try again?

What challenges come up for you around this?

08/16/2022

How comforting would it be for a child to have a special comfy, cozy, safe corner to go when they are having a tough time, or they just need to chill out in quiet? I'm not talking about a time-out place, I'm talking about a place that they want to go to! Here's a few cute ideas I found & wanted to share with you.
If you already have a space in your home, please share it with us.

08/15/2022

When children are acting out or misbehaving, they are likely craving Connection!
Try taking 10 minutes a day, with no distraction, shut off all electronic devices, give 100% of your undivided attention to just play, talk, walk whatever feels good. Listen & reflect what you heard. All humans need to feel Seen, Heard and Validated.
Try this & give some feed back on how it's working out!

Become the Peaceful Parent you want to be! Join me for tools & guidance.

08/08/2022

Fill your child's "Power Bucket" everyday by giving choices whenever possible!
Here's a few suggestions! Please share any that work well in your family!

08/05/2022

Hello All
Welcome to my Parent Horizons page.
I'm Tammy Arbour, a Certified Peaceful Parent Coach.
My mission is to help parents overcome their current parenting challenges, establish a deeper connection with their kids that creates a whole new level of corporation and happiness within their families.
I'm here to support parents with love, empathy & non-judgment. My hope is that I can bring light to some heavy challenges and parents get desired results.
Want to schedule a call? Message me or call 508-395-6964.
Hope you have a Peaceful Day!

07/27/2022

100%! 😊