07/14/2025
Over the past decade in my private practice, Iāve seen a massive shift in families.
Parents are more involved than everāshowing up for every game, school project, birthday party, and bedtime routine. Kids also have more than we ever didāmore access to information, more choices, more activities, more opinions.
But along with all that... Iāve also seen a rise in anxiety. Mood issues. Power struggles. Exhausted parents and overwhelmed kids.
Screen time is up. Schedules are packed. Everyoneās overstimulated and running on fumes. And inside so many homes, the same scene plays out:
A simple requestāPut your shoes on. Do your homework. Turn off the iPad.ābecomes a full-blown battle.
Parents feel like theyāre failing.
Kids feel more controlled.
And connection between them starts to fray.
Here's what Iāve come to believe:
Our kids arenāt harder. Theyāre different.
And weāre still using parenting tools that were designed for a completely different world.
We grew up with discipline that was often about compliance, consequences, and ābecause I said so.ā But todayās kids are wired to question. They crave context. They want a say. And when they donāt get it, they push backāhard.
This isnāt about being permissive. Itās about being effective.
The problem isā¦ parents are constantly told what not to do.
ā Donāt yell.
ā Donāt punish.
ā Donāt give in.
But almost no one is showing them how to do it differently.
Thatās why I created the PCN communication method.
Itās a fresh, practical framework that teaches parents how to communicate in a way that actually works with this generation of kids.
At its core, the PCN Method is built on three things every child and teen needs to thrive:
š Connection
š Self-determination
š Emotional safety
When those needs are met, kids are more cooperative. More respectful. And parents actually like being around them again.
I teach this method inside my book Building Your House of Harmonyāand Iāll be expanding on it even more in my new coaching program launching later this summer.
If youāve been feeling like somethingās not working in your homeābut you know in your gut your child is good, and you are tooāplease know youāre not alone.
There is a better way, and it doesn't involve yelling, bribing, or walking on eggshells.
š You can check out the book, Building Your House of Harmonyā¢: A Parentās Blueprint to Cooperation, Respect and Lasting Change, on Amazon (the reviews say it allāparents are using it for screen time battles, school stress, sibling fights, all of it).
š© Or if you want to learn more about my upcoming coaching program to learn the PCN Method, just comment HARMONY and Iāll send you the info.
šAnd join my Facebook group, The House of Harmony Moms Club, for support, tips and community of like-minded parents.
You deserve a home that feels good to come back to.
Your kids deserve a relationship that leaves everyone feeling seen, not shut down.
We all deserve a little more peace.
