03/19/2025
What? No, I Don’t Need Any Freaking Therapy.
By Elizabeth Scott Tonight, FireBird Counseling
"Stop looking at me like that. Seriously, stop it. I’m fine. You don’t get it. Nobody gets it. I’ve been through some real things; I mean for real, real. Not this whiny, vague-posting nonsense. What difference is it going to make anyway? What? You telling me that I’m going to go into a room with some stranger, some somebody I don’t know… tell them all stuff I’ve been through? Dredge up all that old noise and hash it out again? What’s the point of going through all of that stuff, when it’s not going to change anything? What’s happened is what’s happened, and that’s it. Besides, I’ve done it before you know the therapy thing. What a joke. This person I was talking to, they didn’t get me. They didn’t understand. Why even go back? I don’t have the time or money to do that again. It’s frustrating. It pi**ed me off. I did the thing. I went. I talked, actually talked. I told them things I haven’t told anybody."
When you talk about therapy, I feel like you are calling me crazy or worse, broken. I’m not crazy and sure as hell not broken. I’m just tired. I’m just really tired of things never changing of things always going wrong.
The first time I went I was a kid. They made me go. I didn’t want to go. This person, sitting there, I didn’t know them. For all I knew they were going to tell my folks or my teachers. I didn’t trust them. Nobody asked me if I wanted to talk to a therapist. I felt like I was some kind of failure, a mistake. I do not ever want to do therapy again, ever.
"What if I go in there and they turn out to be some kind preacher telling me to pray to make it better?"
"What if I go and they tell me that everything I know about me is a disease?"
"No one is going to see me if I don’t have insurance. I can’t afford it."
"I went twice and nothing changed."
"What if I don’t like my therapist?"
"I want this to be better, but I deserve something easier."
Therapy isn’t an instant magical fix. Therapy is not about someone fixing you, judging you, or shaming you. It’s not about dredging up every painful memory just for the sake of it. Therapy is about the safety of being seen. It’s about giving yourself the space to process things in a way that doesn’t feel like drowning.
It’s about finding a way forward that isn’t just surviving but living in a way that feels less exhausting. Finding the perfect therapist doesn’t always happen on the first try.
We all experience heartache in love, and we try again. We all experience disappointment in our career and try again.
Therapy is uncomfortable. But here’s the thing—you don’t have to do this alone. You don’t have to have the perfect words. Just show up. Call us at 256-263-9100 or visit us at www.FirebirdCounseling.org and let’s get started.
