Abundant Life Counseling & Consulting Services, LLC

10/28/2025

10/26/2025

When you became a mom, you went from being an independent, self-motivated, go-getter, into an ever maturing, interdependent, selfless and often sleep-deprived mom. You may have noticed changes in your desires, priorities, hopes, and fears among other things.

But guess what? You are not alone.

All of us moms are right there, experiencing all those really high highs, and sometimes really low lows, right alongside you. So this is your friendly reminder that you are doing great. Keep going.

10/26/2025

It is such a joy to sponsor this community event that is fun for the whole family!
St. Peter Spooktacular 5k

10/25/2025

Here’s what you can do instead:

1. Say no

2. Change your attitude - if you can't then maybe it is a sign of burnout, someone overstepping your boundaries, or an activity you need to quit.

3. Or, if you have to say yes, try to change the activity by redeeming it somehow. Like the DMV - take that book you feel too guilty to take time to read, and bring it with you so that you can complete what you need to do in a cheerful way. (No one can fault you for reading a novel if you are clearly a paragon of civic responsibility).

10/24/2025

10/24/2025

10/24/2025

Boundaries aren’t about distance — they’re about clarity.

They tell others, “Here’s how to love me without losing yourself.”

In therapy, I see how often people mistake boundaries for rejection.

But healthy boundaries are an act of connection — they make real intimacy possible.

📖 Need a boundary refresher? Pick up ➡️ amzn.to/3404926

10/24/2025

We all have emotions that pop up from time to time that are challenging to deal with in healthy and productive ways. Here are six steps to help manage those hard moments.

10/24/2025

It’s like being stuck in traffic. Do you ever find that some days you are just inching forward, bit by bit, and going nowhere and getting extremely frustrated? That is what it’s like to be in the mindset of “trying to prove.” You are inching forward and not getting anything back.

But if you take the detour and turn down another road, you may find less resistance and more joy and connection to those around you. That is what it’s like to be in the mindset of “learning to receive.” You are way more open to the possibilities and the people around you. Learn to receive. Learn to be open. Learn to accept all the things that come into your path, without the need to prove to anyone or anything. You’ll be at peace in this mindset, we promise...

10/24/2025

Let’s say you have 100 units of emotional energy today. If you spend those 100 units thinking about what you can say and do to make others react to you in a certain way, you’ll be lucky if you get a 10% return on that energy investment.

In other words, you are wasting your life force. If you, instead, spend those 100 units of energy making the changes you want to see in yourself, you are guaranteed a return.

10/24/2025

When you’re having a hard day
or struggling with setting limits
or with self-doubt
or stressing out…
here are some ‘reframes’ from Kendra Wilde [Parent Support] to help you reset and recenter:

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I'm a terrible parent. ⤵️⁠
I'm not a terrible parent, I'm just having a crap day. Making and repairing mistakes is part of growth.⁠
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Everyone else manages better. ⤵️⁠
Everyone else struggles, too. We are human!⁠
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I should be doing more. ⤵️⁠
Says who? I don't have to do everything perfectly to be a good parent.⁠ I can shorten the list. I can ask for help.⁠
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I must be doing it all wrong. ⤵️⁠
There is no right way. We're figuring out what works for our family based on our values, resources, and needs.⁠
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As long as my kids are happy, I'm 'fine' ⤵️⁠
My kids benefit when I take care myself. I'm allowed to do what I can to look after my own wellbeing. That translates to my kids in a powerful way. ⁠
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I can't keep up. ⤵️⁠
Life isn't a race. I can slow down. Sometimes rest is the most productive choice. ⁠

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📷 Kendra Wilde ✨ Parent Support]

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