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01/05/2023

04/02/2022

Small shifts in your calendar can have a significant effect on your relationship over time. Just 6 hours per week — 5% of your waking life — can make a huge difference.

This month's free download with our Love Notes newsletter gives you a template for how to make the time investment that will pay dividends for a lifetime. Sign up to download today: https://bit.ly/30JWG2H

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04/01/2022

2. "I'm not available to play dinosaurs right now. Would you like to read with me?"

03/23/2022

It's not usually intentional, but defensiveness is a way of reversing blame. This sets you and your partner at opposite ends of a conflict, leaving you both alone to solve the challenge. Read more on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/3JzygNa

Stay tuned tomorrow when we'll talk about the antidote to defensiveness!

03/22/2022

Carrie Cole, the director of the Gottman Institute's Love Lab, breaks down how to strengthen or rebuild your love connection and rekindle your flame.

03/21/2022

Defensiveness is the third of Dr. John Gottman's Four Horsemen. One might become defensive when feeling criticized.

Defensiveness can show up as:
Righteous indignation
Counterattack
Acting like the innocent victim
Whining

Stay tuned for tips on overcoming defensiveness throughout this week.

03/20/2022

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03/09/2022

All this month, we're focusing on The Four Horsemen. It's a foundational Gottman concept, and understanding the horsemen can have a huge impact on your interactions. If you want more information about each of the Four Horsemen, you can explore:

The Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/3IFj94o

Our Marriage Minute Email: http://bit.ly/2qB8FAc

The Four Horsemen Webinar: https://bit.ly/3HEKm5W

11/26/2021

How do you handle stonewalling in your relationship?

Stonewalling sometimes occurs when couples are experiencing conflict. When one or both partners feel emotionally flooded, they may shut down and withdraw from the interaction. Flooding is often accompanied by increased heart rate, the release of stress hormones into the bloodstream, and even a fight-or-flight response.

When this happens, it's hard to find common ground and have dialogue where both parties feel heard.

Thankfully, there’s help! The antidote to stonewalling is to practice self-soothing. When you feel your body starting to build the wall, that’s the time to pause. Walk away from the conversation (with a verbalized plan to return) and give yourself a breather for at least 20 minutes. These steps can help you shift conflict conservations into productive dialogue with your loved one.

Discover more tips to self-soothe and navigate relationship conflict with help from the Gottman Relationship Coach today: https://bit.ly/3njDcvD

11/12/2021

How full is your emotional bank account?

When you build up enough positive interactions with your partner, your emotional bank account is strong. Your relationship will be able to weather the difficult times better, and it will keep you on track for maintaining a healthy, happy life together.

Learn strategies for building goodwill in your relationship by attending The Art and Science of Love Virtual Couples Workshop. Master Trainers Donald Cole, D.Min. and Carrie Cole, M.Ed. will show you why millions of couples worldwide have benefited from the Gottman Method. Register today: https://bit.ly/34h9hN8