12/22/2021
For my pregnant and nursing mamas, here are some tips for the upcoming holidays π
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ββοΈ You don't have to
What does that mean?
π² You dont have to attend every (or any!) function. This time of year can be busy, overwhelming and stressful, especially during pregnancy or with a new baby. You decide what's best for you and your family. If this year looks like staying home, then do it!
π² In all the hustle and bustle, it can be hard to set boundaries to make sure nursing baby happens. There's pressure to stretch feeds, or to skip altogether, offer a bottle, hide with baby in a spare bedroom to nurse. Holidays do not give anyone the right to dictate how and when you feed your baby. Feed that baby, as often as they want, and wherever/however you are comfortable.
π² Nursing baby isn't just about feeding baby. It's a time for baby to relax, reconnect with you, and come down from all that overstimulation that holidays can bring. If baby is wanting to nurse more frequently and for longer as you travel from party to party, its totally normal! Give yourself and baby some grace.
π² YOUR BABY IS NOT A SIDE DISH. I said it. It's true. Your grandma, sister in law, weird nephew, whomever...do not have rights to hold your baby or pass your baby around like a side dish at Thanksgiving. Family is not entitled to physically hold baby just because they are family π² But we all feel that pressure, I know. Baby wearing is a really great way to avoid this. You can't pass baby if they are strapped to you! If you do pass baby, and they start to fuss, ask for baby back. Babies are selfish, and they only want mom (or dad) and that's ok! If you don't feel comfortable, ask someone else to get baby for you.
π² Setting boundaries is ok. Saying no is ok. Skipping out or saying 'not this year' to plans is ok. Going to every function is ok! Passing baby is ok (if that's what you want). You decide what you want the holidays to look like for you and your family.
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