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12/10/2025

Free HELPING CHILDREN CALM: CONNECTION BEFORE CORRECTION POSTER
So many adults try to guide a child when the child is already overwhelmed. We speak, we explain, we set limits, but nothing seems to work. The truth is simple. A child cannot listen when their body feels unsafe.

This free poster shows how connection helps turn the brain back on so the child can think, breathe and understand what we are saying. It gives easy steps any adult can use, such as slowing your movements, softening your voice, naming the feeling and waiting for the body to settle. Small changes can make a huge difference.

If you support children, kids or teens with big emotions or challenging behaviour, this guide is a helpful reminder that calm always comes first.

Comment CALM and we will message you a link to the free PDF of the poster.

Love Gabor Mate!
12/09/2025

Love Gabor Mate!

Is what we call “normal” actually healthy—or just common? In this powerful episode, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen sit down with world-renowned physician and ...

12/08/2025

All abuse has an element of taking away someone's power. ⁠
This is true in all kinds of relationships. ⁠

In terms of childhood trauma, abusive caretakers abuse their power ⁠
in some of the following ways:⁠

*Shaming the child for simply being a child⁠

*Telling the child who they are through a toxic lens with a role such as ⁠
scapegoat, savior, or being parentified ⁠

*Emotionally, physically, or sexually abusing a child by having the power of an adult⁠

*Controlling the truth⁠

And sometimes, the abuse of power is about not using one's power as a caretaker to protect or not neglect one's child. ⁠

Abuse is an action, and so are boundaries. ⁠

Boundaries are actionable steps to take back power, but what is the quality of that power we are taking back?⁠

*Telling family we are unavailable for gossip, toxic negativity, or character assassination. (we take back the power of how we want to "connect" instead of engaging in behaviors outside our true values)⁠

*Going no contact. (we take back the power of choosing our mental health and wellness over a system that doesn't believe in such things) ⁠

*Advocating for reciprocity -they call us instead of a one-way street. (we take back the power of roles and expectations, meaning we step outside of being the parent for parents and siblings)⁠

Are boundaries just demands? No. The outcomes don't matter as much as setting the boundaries. That is the place from which we discover we have power. ⁠

Whether they respect the boundary and do, it isn't the goal. Boundaries are declarations of choice and reclaiming a sense of self, which is very powerful.

12/08/2025

Imagination is a very powerful neuroplastic agent.
So the work that we do in IFS – which is very much imaginary – absolutely has neurophysiological effects on neural networks on the brain and on the body. It's a beautiful intersection between psychotherapy and neuroscience.

- Frank Anderson

12/03/2025

The AI risks are extreme for therapy type questions

Interesting and thought provoking.  How are we training our brain day by day?
11/30/2025

Interesting and thought provoking. How are we training our brain day by day?

“People do well if they can.”  -Words to live by
11/29/2025

“People do well if they can.” -Words to live by

For my neurodivergent  and/ or neuro atypical friends… kinda fun to explore a different perspectives.
11/28/2025

For my neurodivergent and/ or neuro atypical friends… kinda fun to explore a different perspectives.

Happy Thanksgiving to all- especially those that value solutions and  expertise.
11/27/2025

Happy Thanksgiving to all- especially those that value solutions and expertise.

A genius fixed a million-dollar problem with one chalk mark—then the bill arrived and changed how the world values expertise forever.
1920s, Dearborn, Michigan. Henry Ford's massive manufacturing plant—one of the industrial wonders of the world—ground to a sudden, catastrophic halt.
A giant generator had died. And with it, an entire production line burning tens of thousands of dollars every hour it sat idle.
Ford's team of engineers swarmed the problem. Fifty of the best technical minds in American industry spent days pulling panels, checking connections, reading schematics, testing circuits.
Nothing worked. The generator stayed dead. The losses kept mounting.
In desperation, someone suggested calling Charles Proteus Steinmetz.
If you don't know that name, you should. Steinmetz was the electrical engineering genius behind much of General Electric's success. A German immigrant with a twisted spine and boundless intellect, he could visualize electromagnetic fields in his head the way most people picture their living room.
He understood electricity the way Einstein understood relativity—not just mathematically, but intuitively, deeply, completely.
When Steinmetz arrived at Ford's plant, he didn't immediately start dismantling equipment or barking orders.
He asked for a notebook, a chair, and silence.
For hours, he sat near the dead generator—listening, watching, occasionally touching the casing, running calculations in his head. To the Ford engineers watching him, it must have looked like he was doing nothing.
But Steinmetz was doing what fifty engineers couldn't: he was thinking.
Finally, after what seemed like an eternity of stillness, Steinmetz stood up.
"I need a piece of chalk."
Someone handed him one.
He walked to the massive generator, drew a single X on its metal casing, and stepped back.
"Open here. Replace the coil you'll find sixteen windings in from the break."
The engineers hesitated—this seemed too simple, too confident—but they opened the panel exactly where Steinmetz had marked.
Behind it, precisely where he said: a shorted coil, sixteen windings in.
They replaced it. The generator roared back to life. The production line started moving again. Ford's losses stopped hemorrhaging.
The plant was saved.
A few days later, Steinmetz's invoice arrived: $10,000.
In 1920s money, this was an enormous sum—equivalent to over $150,000 today. For what appeared to be a few hours of work and one chalk mark.
Henry Ford, ever the businessman, sent the invoice back with a request:
"Please itemize your charges."
Steinmetz's reply became legend:
Making one chalk mark: $1
Knowing where to put it: $9,999
Ford paid immediately. Without argument.
Because he understood what too many people still don't: you're not paying for time. You're paying for mastery.
Steinmetz could have spent weeks taking that generator apart piece by piece, documenting every test, writing lengthy reports. He could have charged by the hour and made it look like he was working harder.
Instead, he did something far more valuable: he solved the problem correctly, immediately, and completely.
That's what expertise looks like. It looks effortless because it's been earned through decades of study, experience, and insight that can't be Googled or crowd-sourced.
The plumber who stops your flood in ten minutes isn't "overcharging" because they didn't spend three hours creating the appearance of work. They're charging for the ten years it took to learn which valve to turn.
The lawyer who reviews your contract in an hour and saves you from years of litigation isn't expensive. They're priceless.
The doctor who diagnoses your mystery illness in five minutes after a dozen others failed isn't lucky. They're learned.
The developer who fixes your "unfixable" code with three lines isn't a magician. They're experienced.
They all know where to put the X.
We live in a world obsessed with measuring effort—hours logged, meetings attended, emails sent, busy-ness performed. We mistake motion for progress and time spent for value created.
But Steinmetz's chalk mark reminds us: the most valuable thing you can buy isn't someone's time.
It's someone's knowing.
The expertise that prevents disasters before they happen. The insight that sees solutions others miss. The mastery that makes the complex look simple.
That's not expensive. That's efficient.
Henry Ford—a man who revolutionized manufacturing efficiency—understood this immediately. He didn't argue. He didn't negotiate. He paid the $10,000 because he recognized that Steinmetz's knowledge had just saved him millions.
The next time you're tempted to negotiate down an expert because "it only took them an hour," remember:
You're not paying for the hour.
You're paying for the decades of hours it took them to become the person who knows exactly where to put the X.
Charles Proteus Steinmetz died in 1923, but his chalk mark lives on as one of business history's most valuable lessons:
Amateurs think expertise should be cheap because it looks easy.
Professionals know expertise is valuable precisely because it makes hard things look easy.
The chalk costs $1.
Knowing where to put it? That's priceless.

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