08/05/2025
In Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), there’s a concept that can truly shift how we navigate life: the three states of mind, Emotional Mind, Rational Mind, and Wise Mind. These aren’t just abstract ideas; they reflect how we operate in everyday situations, especially under stress or emotional turmoil. The Emotional Mind is driven entirely by feelings, intense, reactive, and often impulsive. When you’re in this state, your decisions are based on emotions like fear, anger, sadness, or excitement. For example, you might cancel a doctor’s appointment out of anxiety, lash out during a disagreement, or isolate yourself because you feel overwhelmed. Then there’s the Rational Mind, where logic, facts, and reason dominate. It’s calm, calculated, and emotionally detached. You might analyze health data, over-research every symptom, or follow strict routines, but in doing so, you might ignore your emotional needs, leaving you feeling empty or disconnected.
DBT : Wise Mind.
Wise Mind is the balance between the two. It’s where intuition meets logic. It allows you to acknowledge your feelings without letting them control you, while also using reason without silencing your inner truth. In Wise Mind, you might recognise your stress and choose to rest, reach out for support, or make a grounded decision about your health. It’s the part of you that pauses, reflects, and says, “This feels right and makes sense.” In terms of health and well-being, operating from Wise Mind can transform how we care for ourselves. Instead of reacting emotionally or suppressing our emotions through pure logic, we begin to make choices that are compassionate, sustainable, and grounded. We become better at managing stress, setting boundaries, caring for our mental and physical health, and honoring our true needs.
Practicing Wise Mind isn’t about being perfect, it’s about checking in with yourself and choosing a middle path. Over time, this practice builds emotional resilience, supports healing, and nurtures a sense of calm clarity, even in the midst of life’s chaos. It's not just a therapy tool, it's a life skill.
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