09/15/2025
You might not be engaging in “big” betrayals of yourself…
But what about the small, quiet ones? The ones that whisper: “Your needs don’t matter.”
Here are some examples of what I’m talkin’ about:
💬 Saying “whatever you want is fine” even when it’s not
🥗 Ordering food you don’t like just to avoid conflict
👕 Wearing something uncomfortable because you don’t want to “make a thing of it”
🫠 Apologizing for things like asking for temperature adjustments if you’re too cold or too hot
🎭 Pretending you’re okay when your heart is aching
🎨 Giving up on a hobby you love because no one else wants to do it with you
These are micro self-abandonments—tiny, repeated acts of disconnection from your inner truth.
And over time? They compound like interest in a high-yield savings account, baby.
They silence your voice. They chip away at your self-trust.
But here’s the good news: You can relearn how to choose yourself.
Not in huge, dramatic ways—but in small, sacred ones:
Every honest “no” or “not right now.”
Every real “I’m not sure” or “let me think about it.”
Every quiet “this matters to me.”
That’s where healing begins.
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Self-abandonment | self-trust | inner voice | healing habits | people-pleasing recovery
