03/22/2025
Starting the last HS rugby season for my youngest and reflecting on how much I have loved being a rugby mom for the last decade or so, it feels like a good time to share why I not only love rugby but I think it is great for kids, especially kids with trauma.
The proprioceptive input of tackling and scrums is good for many with sensory needs without the added sensory annoyance of helmets and pads. Proprioceptive input can be so calming and focusing, and it’s just one reason I was happy to let my child move up to tackle league early, playing (and holding his own) with kids a couple of years older.
Baseball, football, soccer, and basketball all have more injuries than rugby. Technique is taken seriously in rugby, so tackling is more controlled - and players do less crazy things without the semblance of added protection.
Anyone can play, anyone can run the ball, anyone can kick, and anyone can score. In fact some of the smallest players on our team have been some of the toughest. Rugby also takes a stand against discrimination and racism and I have observed take this stand as well.
Rugby is a “hooligan game played by gentlemen”. Rugby culture is very important, teaching respect and sportsmanship. The referee must be called sir and not just anyone can talk to them. In fact unruly parents can earn a card for their team.
Rugby is a community. I have literally made friends with ruggers in restaurant bars all across the world watching games or just because my kids play. I am so thankful for the community has provided for all of us.
Adult ruggers often share a pint together with both teams after games; for minor ruggers, the home team hosts a “social” where the players eat together. When done well, players not only interact but compliment each other and start friendships. Your high school opponents can very likely be your collegiate or men’s league teammates. Some of the greatest young men I’ve known have been ruggers. It’s also a sport you can continue to play into adulthood even without college. My dream is to have one season where all three brothers play men’s league rugby together - a rugby mom’s dream come true.