Dara Schulbaum MSW, LCSW

09/07/2025

Nailed it-
“The way that our society – what I call a low nurture culture – largely understands and treats babies is built on a plethora of outdated myths, that put the lifelong mental health of babies and the mental health of parents at serious risk.

Low nurture is a significant underlying factor in our mental health crisis.”

https://raisedgood.com/how-the-first-1000-days-of-parenting-shapes-a-childs-lifelong-mental-health/?ck_subscriber_id=2897328803&utm_source=convertkit&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=🧠The%20discovery%20that%20changed%20how%20I%20see%20the%20first%203%20years%20-%2018877843&sh_kit=ad5b88883023b91880276eb7573540497d699f61d0ceeb9925ee9fc1f1fdcaa3

08/22/2025

I think this message will resonate with so many of you. Even the specific bits about a quiet house post college drop off as I know so many of you are In the thick of that right now. 🥹🥺

overcoming loneliness when your children leave the nest

08/22/2025

Such a beautiful article on what is possible in parenting but requires a shift to our ancestral ways of thinking. This is the mindset and heart of The Evolved Nest!

The work of normalizing nurturing isn't just about changing individual families, though that would be enough. It's about shifting our entire cultural understanding of what children need and what parents can trust. When we choose the whisperer's way o

07/02/2025

This!!!!! In general, as a society, we are so far from understanding our interdependence as humans and with all of life.

Blog about how regulation isn’t solo; it’s relational. Embrace connection, nature, and empathy to help children build emotional skills and thrive together.

06/22/2025

I can’t say enough good things about the concepts and articles from this group- they are wise and kind which is everything I think we ought to aim for as parents 💕

https://www.jaiinstituteforparenting.com/consequences-for-lying-teenagers?utm_pagemedium=newsletter

06/21/2025

I bet a lot of you will resonate with this description of high functioning anxiety. 😥
There are great tips here and I love that they align with the holistic way I see and address these concerns.

https://healyournervoussystem.com/high-functioning-anxiety-explained-key-symptoms-and-evidence-based-relief/?utm_source=ActiveCampaign&utm_medium=email&utm_content=New%20guide%3A%20what%20keeps%20you%20stuck%20in%20hyperfunctioning&utm_campaign=Newsletter%20131%20-%20High%20Functioning%20Anxiety%20-%

Discover clear signs of high-functioning anxiety, understand its hidden impact, and learn practical, evidence-based solutions to find relief.

05/14/2025

An article by Darcia Narvaez, Prof Emeritus of Psychology at Notre whose work has profoundly influenced me.
How does this article land for you?

“The anxiety, depression, and me-mine-centeredness we see in our society are not species-typical but shaped by child raising practices that disconnect. The effects compound over generations and are passed on through epigenetic inheritance.”

John Bowlby’s insights about the importance of attachment was a revelation to a western world dominated by left-brain orientations of non-relational individualism and treating mothers as milk machines instead of nurturers.Attachment is a psychologica

08/31/2024

If you don’t know Dr Larry Cohen, here is a great introduction- I love him!

Setting limits is hard. Consider these 10 questions for self-reflection that can help you do it effectively, calmly, and mindfully.

08/27/2024

Another gem by a very important teacher in my life, Darcia Narvaez. This speaks to exactly what I am telling people all the time “there is nothing wrong with you!” Whatever has brought someone in to therapy is inevitability a survival mechanism from earlier in their life. Here, Dr. Narvaez describes this as the natural results of minds that have been shaped by undercare in early life and the effects of colonialization of our minds for hundreds, if not thousands of years.

Colonization goes deep.

07/16/2024

https://kindredmedia.org/2024/07/early-pathway-to-adult-authoritarianism/

Authoritarianism is on the rise and support for democracy on the wane. Why?

07/05/2024

Boom.

A lot of this dysfunctionality seems ‘normal’ because it's part of our ordinary cultural reality.

06/21/2024

A super interesting article by a hero of mine, Darcia Narvaez, talking about many things I love- neurobiology, parts work, evolutionary psychology.
Check it out!

Understanding how our mind shifts into different characters helps us learn to manage them.