04/09/2025
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Brace yourself. It’s that time of year again…the time when people care more about colors, symbols, and trendy terminology than actually advocating for the people they claim to care about.
It’s April. Autism Awareness. Acceptance. Advocacy. Whatever you want to call it. I call it World Autism Month.
It’s also that time of year when people with profound autism (yes, severe autism, level 3, high support needs…pick your label) are shoved further to the sidelines. While the world turns its attention to autistic voices who can eloquently advocate for themselves, the most vulnerable individuals, the ones who can’t speak up, are conveniently forgotten. Again.
It’s that time of year when self-proclaimed advocates will spend more time yelling at parents and caregivers for supporting the “wrong organization” than actually doing anything that makes life better for those with autism. They’ll regurgitate the same tired misinformation and conspiracy theories that have been floating around social media for over a decade, because who needs facts when outrage gets more likes?
It’s that time of year when people act like virtue signaling on Instagram makes them a champion for the cause. Meanwhile, the parents in the trenches, the ones cleaning up after toileting accidents, preventing elopement, and managing self-injurious behavior, are accused of “ableism” because they dare to talk about how hard it is.
It’s that time of year when some folks will get offended by phrases like “profound autism” because it makes them uncomfortable. God forbid we acknowledge that not everyone experiences autism the same way. Heaven forbid we admit that some people can’t speak, can’t advocate, and will need lifelong care. Nope, let’s just call it all “ableism” and pretend that ignoring reality makes us good allies.
And oh, don’t forget, it’s that time of year when tone policing is at an all-time high. If you’re too emotional? You’re hysterical. Too factual? You’re cold and uncaring. Too direct? You’re aggressive. Because nothing shuts down meaningful conversation faster than people being more concerned about how the truth is delivered than actually acknowledging it.
So yes, it’s that time of year. The month when awareness turns into arguing, and acceptance becomes just another buzzword. And once the hashtags fade and the spotlight moves on, the families left behind? They’re still there. Fighting the same battles. Alone.
But sure, tell me again how arguing over a puzzle piece is making a difference.