Calming Chaos - Mindfulness & ADHD

05/17/2023

05/16/2023

Explore an unconventional perspective on ADHD, where it's viewed as a set of coping mechanisms in a society that avoids pain. Learn how embracing and understanding your pain, rather than running from it, can lead to healing and personal growth. A candid account of a journey from loss to life mastery

05/15/2023

Explore the journey of a widow and single mother as she grapples with pain and loss, discovering the healing power of self-acceptance and mindfulness. Learn how to break destructive habits and embrace a healthier path towards personal growth.

01/01/2023

Healing ADHD with Mindfulness!
Most are only treating the symptoms, while mindfulness always you to heal the cause.

Fear is necessary for our survival, it is what keeps us safe. But for the person with ADHD it is also what keeps us stuck. We will keep running from one thing to the next, as if something is chasing us. But its nothing more than our own feelings. We are scared of ourselves. Scared of feeling. W

11/22/2022

I learned the importance of being present while struggling with my own grief alone and then watching my kids struggle with theirs. They needed me and I wasn’t able to be their for them. That guilt destroys many parents.

So what did I do, the same thing my father done. The same thing many parents do. I tried to buy their happiness. I didn’t understand their needs because I didn’t understand my own.

I would still be attempting to buy their happiness if I had the means. So I’m thankful that I have had to go through a time with little money. Like many us I thought I had to have money. But that money only allowed me to run from my pain a little longer.

I say all this in efforts to make others aware that the time you spend with your kids matters. It’s easy to get stuck working all the time to pay for things we think we need but by becoming mindful of what your needs really are you are able to stress less over the things that don’t matter.

11/22/2022

Mindfulness isn’t a cure all for people suffering with ADHD but it can make a tremendous impact in your healing journey. We start to feel safe in our body and it allows us to feel our emotions and ultimately learn how to cope with them. You can’t learn how to regulate emotions if you aren’t able to really feel them.

11/20/2022

Apart of me died the day I lost Justin. It’s been 3 years now. He was just 34, and I 29. We had been married almost 10 years, and had 4 kids ages 8, 7, 6, and 5 at the time of his passing.

Healing from this loss was rather difficult. I struggled to regain this lost piece of myself but I realized I’m searching for a part of me I don’t even want back. The person I was before his death wasn’t going to be able to help me.

I ran from my pain for about a year. But then something changed. I seen the pain in my kids eyes. They couldn’t grieve their father because they didn’t have a safe place to do so. Life was scary for them being a child and just lost their father and I’m an emotional wreck. I was physically there, but mentality and emotionally I was dying.

I started researching mindfulness about 2 years ago. And now looking back that is what started my healing journey. Becoming mindful allowed me to become present, to get out of my head and into life. To actually feel safe. A feeling that I had searched for since childhood. Growing up with an alcoholic father and co-dependent mother, I didn’t know what it was like to feel safe. I also didn’t know how important it was to being able to feel loved.

ADHD is something I have struggle with my whole life. It started out as me trying to escape my emotions by distracting myself, and that lead into adulthood and ultimately what caused me to run from my own grief as well as my children’s. I didn’t know how to deal with my emotions because I never had a safe place to even feel them. I didn’t know you could regulate them.

This page is to help connect people struggling with their emotions. Struggling to feel, in a society that makes it so easy to run. Teaching others to feel. Teaching others how to become that safe place we all needed as a child.

Healing for me was messy. I had lots of unhealed trauma that I had to sort through. I met my inner child. So I could learn what I needed then so I knew how to meet the needs of my kids.

This would have never been possible if it wasn’t for Justin’s death. Our kids feel more loved now than ever before. I really wanted to die with him that day but I knew I had to figure this out not just for myself and the kids but for him as well.