Renewed Hope Counseling, PLLC

05/19/2022

Healing can take time. 💙

Early developmental injuries take time to heal, and it takes time to grow. We are talking about the most vulnerable aspect of our hearts; it takes time for that to be strengthened. ❤️💪

02/17/2022

Sharing this gem 💎

04/09/2021

Intentions and impacts 🌷. with
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This is an important one, friends. The conversation about intent vs impact is a big one that comes up time and time in therapy.

So many of us mean well or have great points that we’re making, truly, but here’s the thing...when the way we deliver those intentions cuts another down, belittles, is dismissive or condescending, or lacks mindfulness, the intention gets lost anyway.
Our work is to find the intersection of intent and impact. And that work requires us to slow down enough to consider “how is what I’m about to say/do going to impact this person?” And, “what would I need to do and shift to make sure that message is received well?” Ah, the practice, friends. It’s exactly that.

Practice.

We have to make the impact just as important as our intentions. We can all get our point across without taking people down a notch. We can communicate a message AND do it in such a way that considers the other person. You with me?
So, consider how your intentions meet impact. See where they’re off and where they’re aligned. Make shifts accordingly, and tap into the courage to show others where theirs might be off.

01/28/2021

Healing is freedom.

12/23/2020

Setting healthy boundaries in relationships can be ambiguous and scary. Boundaries teach people how to treat you and when you do not have healthy boundaries, you allow others to disrespect you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Unhappiness is not normal. If you had a broken leg, you'd know you were not happy. Why then, do so many people struggle when it comes to personal happiness? If you were raised by unhappy people, it will be difficult for you to set boundaries, tell your truth, and believe you have a right to say NO. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you are codependent, you may believe you must worry about what other people think about you. You will seek external validation, and worry yourself sick trying to gain approval and it just does NOT have to be that way. Setting healthy boundaries in relationships teach people how to treat you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Learning to set boundaries with toxic or difficult people is a life skill that can completely transform your life!

11/30/2020

😂 So thankful for telehealth and being able to see each of your beautiful faces and allllll 👏 the 👏 emotions 👏.

10/08/2020

“If you could never pinpoint why simple ‘inspiring’ quotes didn’t sit well with you, this could be the explanation.” 🤔

"If you could never pinpoint why simple 'inspiring' quotes didn't sit well with you, this could be the explanation."

10/01/2020

There’s something about autumn that's just so therapeutic for the soul, and it’s not the pumpkin spice lattes. 😉 Check out this article by Linda Wasmer Andrews on ways the fall season can be beneficial for your emotional health.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/minding-the-body/201909/three-ways-autumn-promotes-happier-frame-mind

09/19/2020

Just offering a few questions to consider when you notice your own reactivity.
Reactivity is a powerful indicator that a boundary has just been crossed. Maybe it’s you with you and maybe it’s someone else with you, but either way, your internal system needs attention from you stat.
Where do you become the most reactive? With whom? Pay attention here and notice any patterns you might be able to identify. What irritates you? What creates discomfort? Notice it and begin to journal about it to see what you can start to bring into the light.
We don’t want reactivity to go unaddressed. That’s the quickest way for it to continue to grow and gain momentum. Address reactivity through some of these questions. Bring your awareness forward and see if you can observe yourself becoming reactive next time. Feel into it and see if you can answer these questions. If a boundary has been crossed, does something need to be spoken? Does a shift need to be made? Does a relationship need an adjustment?
What questions do you ask yourself? What patterns do you know are in play already?
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ONE SPOT left for the Women’s Group “Loving and Loving Through Chronic Pain and/or Illness”. This group is led by therapist, Hillary Geffner who also lives with chronic pain and illness. Link in bio for details.

03/17/2020

Hi friends! 🖐 In light of all that’s been happening in recent weeks, I’ve decided to add in a telehealth component to my practice. I know that many of us are stuck at home, struggling with anxiety, depression, or trauma responses. And now more than ever, there are many who are hurting and in need of mental health services.

While I’ll still be available in office to see my clients in person this week, I want to make sure that those who cannot or do not wish to venture out do not have to do so unnecessarily. If you’d like to move your session online or via phone, just let me know and I’d be happy to accommodate your needs. (This is for non-crisis situations only) Stay safe and be at peace friends. 💗

09/17/2019

09/11/2019

For all my ladies, especially my girls starting college for the first time this fall: Remember that it is OKAY to listen to your feelings and to remove yourself from an unsafe-feeling situation, even if you don't know why you feel uncomfortable in the moment. It's okay to walk away from a party, a date, even a friend hangout without feeling like you have to explain or justify your reasons for doing so. ⁠⠀
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For many of us, setting a boundary comes with a lot of negative self-talk about how we might be perceived. Maybe we worry about being seen as rude or impolite. But if you find yourself in a situation where someone is pushing your boundaries, physically or even just verbally, know that it's okay to walk away. Your safety trumps being nice, always. 💙 🌻