Spence Counseling Alliance, PLLC

Spence Counseling Alliance, PLLC Therapist for Gen X moms. Recovering from guilt and people-pleasing. Learning to rest without guilt and live with more ease.

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02/01/2026

“Just tell me what needs to be done” sounds supportive, but it still makes you the manager.
The planner.
The keeper of the mental load.

True partnership isn’t about helping.
It’s about ownership.
When both people see the full picture and take responsibility, that’s when the weight actually starts to lift.

🎯 This is your sign to make the invisible visible.
✨ And if your list is 10x longer? You’re not imagining it.

Grab the Boundary Archetype Starter Kit — to understanding your burnout patterns and shifting into shared responsibility. Link in bio.

01/31/2026

You’ve been taught to prove your value by carrying everything, responsibilities, emotions, expectations.
But burnout isn’t a badge of honor. It’s a signal that something has to change.

You don’t have to keep over-functioning to feel worthy.
You don’t need to do more to earn rest.
You’re allowed to protect your energy, without apology.

Start by understanding how you set (or avoid) boundaries.
✨ Grab my Boundary Archetype Starter Kit — Link in bio.

01/30/2026

You don’t need to do more to be worthy.
You just need to remember the version of you before the world convinced her to disappear.
She’s still in there and she’s ready to lead.

✨ Start with the Boundary Archetype Starter Kit — link in bio.

01/29/2026

Your confidence didn’t disappear, it was buried under expectations.
Under being needed.
Under saying yes so often you forgot what you needed at all.

If this feels familiar, it’s not because something is wrong with you.
It’s because you’ve been carrying everyone else for a very long time.

Now it’s your turn.

I created the 10‑Day Midlife Confidence Challenge for Gen X moms who are done people‑pleasing and ready to come back to themselves — gently, honestly, and without blowing up their lives.

✨ Let’s unbury the real you.
🔗 Details in my bio.

You weren’t becoming “a problem.”You were stopping the pattern.For years you smoothed, explained, postponed, softened, a...
01/28/2026

You weren’t becoming “a problem.”
You were stopping the pattern.

For years you smoothed, explained, postponed, softened, and carried what wasn’t yours,
because it kept the peace.
Because it kept you “easy.”
Because that’s what you were rewarded for.

But peace built on self‑sacrifice is just silence with a cost.
And boundaries, the real kind , feel uncomfortable not because they’re wrong…
but because they break a pattern that used to serve you.

Let discomfort be the sign of growth, not guilt.

✨ You’re not shrinking.
You’re finally choosing you.

01/27/2026

You’re not starting over, you’re starting next.
Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s a comeback.

After years of holding it all together, fixing what’s broken, and being “the reliable one,” you deserve more than survival mode. You deserve a life that feels like yours.

💬 I created a 10-Day Confidence Challenge to help Gen X moms stop people-pleasing and start showing up for themselves.

✨ If you’re ready to rewrite the rules, rebuild your self-trust, and stop apologizing for existing, this is for you.

🔗 Click the link in my bio to begin. Your next era starts here.

01/26/2026

“Just tell me what to do.”
Sounds helpful.
But what it really means is you’re still the one carrying the plan, the pressure, and the mental load.

That’s not shared responsibility, that’s supervision.
And being someone’s manager makes closeness complicated.

Because desire doesn’t grow in dynamics where one person is constantly tracking, reminding, and correcting.

Equity at home doesn’t just lighten the load.
It rebuilds connection.

📥 Ready to stop doing it all and start protecting your peace?
Grab the Boundary Archetype Starter Kit via the link in bio. It’s time to stop managing and start partnering.

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01/25/2026

Packed calendar. Fast replies. Always “on.”
It looks like confidence, but it’s often a cover for something deeper.

When you’ve been taught that being needed = being valuable, slowing down feels dangerous.
But urgency doesn’t equal importance. And busyness isn’t a personality.

If you’re constantly running on empty trying to prove your value, it’s time to stop outsourcing your worth.

✨ Start reclaiming your energy and redefining your value with boundaries that protect your peace.

📥 Click the link in my bio to get the Boundary Archetype Starter Kit — your first step back to yourself.

01/24/2026

If your life only works because you hold everything together…
That’s not balance. That’s burnout dressed up as competence.

Being the emotional buffer.
The planner.
The fixer.
The net that catches everything before it falls.

It’s not because you’re confused.
It’s because you’re finally clear, this role isn’t sustainable.
You were never meant to be the entire infrastructure.

You’re one person.
And that’s enough.

✨ Ready to step out of the burnout loop and reclaim your energy?
Start with my free guide: 5 Boundaries You Aren’t Setting Yet (That Are Draining You) — link in bio.

01/23/2026

You weren’t taught how to be emotionally strong.
You were taught how to be pleasant.

Smile through discomfort.
Don’t rock the boat.
Make things comfortable.
Don’t be too much.

That made you likable.
It also taught you to stay quiet.

So now, when you’re honest… it feels disruptive.
Not because you’re wrong, but because you’re no longer managing everyone else’s comfort.

✨ If you’re ready to stop shrinking to stay agreeable, start with my free guide
5 Boundaries You Aren’t Setting Yet — link in bio.

01/22/2026

When people say “you’ve changed,”
what they often mean is:
you’ve become harder to manage.

You don’t over-explain.
You don’t jump in.
You don’t carry what was never yours.

Not everyone benefits when you stop overfunctioning.
Some will get uncomfortable.
Let them.

You’re not doing it wrong,
you’re just no longer easy to use.

✨ Start reclaiming your energy with 5 Boundaries You Aren’t Setting Yet — free guide in bio.

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