Ruins Rebuilt

Ruins Rebuilt Biblical-Based Marriage Mentoring and Coaching. We are Professional Life Coaches with a specialization in marriage coaching. Les & Leslie Parrott.

Our coaching coursework and certifications come from Light University/AACC. Our marriage mentoring certification comes from the Marriage Mentoring Academy with Drs. Beyond our passion for marriage, Ian has a BA from Spring Arbor University, an MBA from Eastern Michigan University, and a pending Certified Christian Life Coach credential through the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC). Emily has a BSW from Eastern Michigan University and has worked for years in the mental health field.

08/01/2025

Check your calendars- we'd love for you to join us!

07/31/2025

Beard the Lion today.

07/16/2025

What about passion?

07/14/2025

What is love? We should want to know!

06/29/2025

It's been a while, but!

It is such a busy time of year... with all the activities; birthdays, jiujitsu competitions, dance recitals, vacations, ...
05/15/2025

It is such a busy time of year... with all the activities; birthdays, jiujitsu competitions, dance recitals, vacations, babysitting, dog/house sitting, work, etc. We have been re-evaluating and re-prioritizing to make time for each other lately. If you haven't found time to spend with each other, follow the path and walk through the door. It brings health to your entire family!

Truth!
04/14/2025

Truth!

As we are getting ready for our retreat this weekend, I can't help but wonder... When you feel stressed about life and c...
04/07/2025

As we are getting ready for our retreat this weekend, I can't help but wonder... When you feel stressed about life and circumstances that are out of your control, do you push your spouse away, clam up, and risk exploding over something unrelated, or do you share your uncertainty with your spouse and allow them to be the helper God gave them to you to be?

If I'm honest, sometimes I like to deal with things myself and not share how I'm feeling, what my concerns are, or my inner struggles.

Emotional intimacy is an important part of a marriage. Having emotional intimacy with one another says I'm here, I'm a safe space, and I want to know what's on your heart. When we choose to be silent and shut each other out, we are saying to God and our spouse that they are not worthy of knowing our inner thoughts. That they are not worthy of truly knowing us.

One of our desires in facilitating these retreats is to create a space to help couples learn how to be emotionally intimate with one another and be able to share things that are sometimes hard when life is swirling around them.

Please consider joining us on one of these retreats. Our upcoming retreats are:

Nov 12th - Nov 14th, 2025

Feb 11th - Feb 13th, 2026
April 17th - April 19th, 2026
Nov 11th - Nov 13th, 2026



03/10/2025

This!

What do you do when you get too busy and aren't connecting with your spouse? How do you realign?
03/05/2025

What do you do when you get too busy and aren't connecting with your spouse? How do you realign?

Do you ever fight with your spouse? If you said yes, you are not alone. Fighting (or arguing) is a very normal thing in ...
02/24/2025

Do you ever fight with your spouse? If you said yes, you are not alone. Fighting (or arguing) is a very normal thing in marriages. Why? Because we are two broken people trying to live in harmony with one another.

What we've found during coaching and our own therapy is that we tend to not listen to one another, make assumptions, and want to be right more than we want to acknowledge our own sinful behaviors. We want to blame shift, put others down, rise above, and prove that we are "indeed" right and our spouse is not.

This is playing right into the enemy's hands. He wants us to be frustrated, distracted, and apathetic with our spouses.

So, how do we as Christ's followers not fall into this trap? Simply start practicing these few principles:
1) Pray.
Pray before you respond, pray with each other, and pray for each other.
2) Tell each other "I'm not fighting you".
Stating this is a great reminder that we are not to fight each other, we are on the same team. When we fight to be right, we both lose.
3) Own your own part.
We all have a part to play in a fight or argument. It doesn't matter if it is 98:2 and you are the 2 percent, own that 2 percent. It may be what de-escalates the argument to the point that you can find common ground.
4) Apologize to one another often.
Be specific about what you are apologizing for and respond with "I forgive you."

So next time you find yourselves in an argument, remember we have an enemy we can and should be fighting instead of our spouses. And we fight from victory, not for it.

Have a great week!

In imperfect progress,
Ian & Emily at
Ruins Rebuilt

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Jackson, MI
49203

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Monday 9am - 8pm
Tuesday 9am - 5pm
Wednesday 9am - 5pm
Thursday 9am - 5pm
Friday 9am - 5pm

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