Terri Schempf, LMSW - Thrive Therapy LLC

Relationship journal prompts:

• What attracted me to my partner…
• When we first met, I felt…
• I committed to this relationship because…
• What I love most about my partner is…
• When things are tough, I remind myself…

Please note, this post is not designed for relationships where there is abuse or domestic violence.

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What’s an attachment injury?

• An affair (emotional, physical, sexual)
• Deception or lying
• When words and actions don’t match
• A boundary violation
• Failing to respond in a time of need

An attachment injury is when there’s been a violation of an attachment assumption.

In adult partnerships, we hold the assumption that our partners will be there for us, particularly in times of need. We place our trust in them. We expect them to respond to us and to take special care with us. When that doesn’t happen, it can create a significant rupture.

Attachment injuries require a repair process. Depending on the intensity and severity of the rupture, it may take time and consistency to repair.

Recommended reading:

Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson
Wired for Love by Dr. Stan Tatkin
Getting Past the Affair by Snyder, Baucom, and Coop Gordon

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Therapy can be a great resource to start healing through a healthy relationship 💕🌊⚓️

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As we wrap up Domestic Violence Awareness Month, here are some easy ways you can help prevent domestic violence or help a survivor of domestic violence 💜

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You get to decide

You get to decide

Shared by Dr. Sue Johnson a clinical psychologist, researcher, professor and a leading innovator in the field of couple therapy and adult attachment. Sue is the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research.

Sometimes people say things that are meant to be helpful, but are actually pretty upsetting. If you are going through something terrible, hearing that it happened for a reason can be very triggering.
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Know that you get to make whatever meaning you want out of your painful experiences. You don’t have to believe that your trauma happened for a reason. Sometimes the reason is just that life can be painful and unfair. Remember that no matter what you’ve been through, you are lovable, important, and worthy of happiness. 💙
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We don’t have to do everything and be everything for our kids. We often hold ourselves to too high of a standard--one that’s impossible. And then we can be hard on ourselves for not being enough. We can’t be the Pinterest Parent all the time.

Do you tell yourself you SHOULD be doing more sensory-bin activities, or making creative crafting stations, or creating snacks that teach the alphabet, or planning the perfect schedule, or having a perfectly organized play area, or cooking amazing meals every night, or having your pantry labeled . . . or whatever else you’re criticizing yourself for not doing enough of? When we expect too much of ourselves, or try to have it ALL together, we feel "less than," as if we're failing.

But the mistake is not in what we're not doing, but in what we're expecting of ourselves. Soften your list of shoulds; let go of doing it all and being it all. Our kids don't benefit from a stressed out parent who feels like they're failing because their kid's lunch box doesn't have a die-free, preservative-free assortment of healthy foods that have been curated to look like woodland creatures. Our kids benefit from having a relationship with a parent who is present and connected.

What expectations can you temper? What can you let go of?

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Reach out! Stay. It gets better. There is help available. We need you here ❤

If you're hurting, afraid, or need someone to talk to, please reach out to one of the resources below. Someone will reach back. Please stay. You are so deeply valued, so incomprehensibly loved—even when you can't feel it—and you are worth your life.

You can reach the National Su***de Prevention Lifeline at 800.273.8255, Trans Lifeline at 877.565.8860 (U.S.) or 877.330.6366 (Canada), or The Trevor Project at 866.488.7386. If you’d like to talk to a peer, warmline.org contains links to warmlines in every state. If you don't like talking on the phone, you can reach Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741.

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