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11/22/2025

Journaling Friday (Holiday Edition) 📝✨
The holidays can bring up memories, expectations, and emotional patterns you’ve outgrown — which makes this the perfect time to check in with your standards in love.

Today’s prompt:
“What love did I think I deserved in the past — and what love am I willing to expect moving forward?”

Let it be honest. Let it be messy. Let it be real.
This reflection shows you where you’ve been settling, where you’ve grown, and what you’re truly ready for.

Because raising your standards isn’t harsh — it’s healing.
And during the holidays, protecting your heart is one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself. 🤍

11/21/2025

How to Handle Holiday Stress When You’re in a Relationship with a Controlling Person.

11/15/2025

Many people don’t realize that one of the biggest predictors of falling for a narcissist is familiar chaos.

When your nervous system grows up around unpredictability, emotional inconsistency, or caretaking someone else’s feelings, it can start to mistake chaos for connection and intensity for intimacy.
That familiarity makes narcissistic behavior feel “normal,” even when it’s harmful.

Today’s Journaling Prompt:
“What parts of chaos felt like home to me and why?”

This isn’t about blaming your past.
It’s about understanding the patterns your nervous system learned so you can finally rewrite them.

As you journal, notice:
• When did inconsistency feel safer than stability?
• When did you learn to earn love instead of receive it?
• Which behaviors from others felt strangely comfortable even if they weren’t healthy?

This kind of awareness is the foundation of prevention.
It helps you recognize red flags early, choose partners who feel safe, and break the cycle of attracting narcissistic relationships.

Every page you write helps your nervous system relearn what safety feels like.

You deserve love that’s steady, respectful, and calm not chaotic.

11/12/2025

One of the fastest ways to fall into a narcissist’s trap is confusing intensity with love.
If someone rushes declarations, future talk, or constant attention, that is love-bombing — a tactic to create dependency.
Pause. Observe consistency. Trust your gut. Fast intensity is almost always a strategy, not intimacy. Slow down.
Your peace matters.

11/04/2025

You can’t win with a narcissist — but you can protect your peace.

When someone is committed to misunderstanding you, the goal isn’t to convince them — it’s to conserve your energy.

Stay Calm
Your peace is your power. Don’t match their chaos.

Stay Short
Short answers = fewer openings for manipulation.

Stay Neutral
Calm phrases like “I see” or “That’s your opinion” stop the emotional bait.

Stay Free
You’re allowed to end the conversation early. You do not owe a justification.

And here’s the part survivors often struggle to fully believe:

The healthiest choice is not to learn how to “handle” them better —
it’s to get out of the dynamic as soon as you safely can.

Peace isn’t found inside the pattern.
It begins the moment you step out of it.

10/29/2025

It’s Healing Wednesday — a space to slow down and reflect on what real emotional healing looks like.

This week’s reminder: when protecting your peace feels like losing people.

Healing doesn’t always look graceful — sometimes it looks like distance. When you start honoring your boundaries, it can feel like loss, but that distance is often where clarity begins.

Sometimes stepping back isn’t avoidance — it’s your body asking for safety after being drained or hurt. You can love people deeply and still need space from them. Love doesn’t mean overextending yourself; it means choosing peace over chaos.

It’s normal to miss people you had to walk away from. Missing them doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice; it means you cared. Grief is part of healing, even when peace was the right decision.

Keep protecting your peace, even when it feels lonely. The quiet you feel now isn’t emptiness — it’s your nervous system finally resting.

Because peace isn’t about who stays.
It’s about what stays within you when they’re gone.

10/29/2025

Fo real, just sayin

10/27/2025

How To Mondays: Relearning What Healthy Love Feels Like
So many people grew up believing love has to be hard to be real — that peace means boredom and struggle means passion.
But that belief often comes from nervous systems shaped by chaos, inconsistency, or emotional neglect.

Here’s the truth about healthy love:
✨ Peace doesn’t mean boredom.
It means your nervous system finally feels safe.
✨ Stability isn’t a lack of passion.
It’s the foundation where intimacy can grow.
✨ Calm connection isn’t complacency.

It’s emotional maturity — the ability to stay steady, even when things get hard.

Healthy love doesn’t need to test your limits to prove it’s real.
It meets you where you are, with consistency, safety, and respect.
Learn more about how to build this kind of love at JaxBCHCounseling.com and Luhu.com 💙

10/27/2025

Not everyone deserves access to your peace.
Being selective isn’t about arrogance — it’s about awareness.
After everything you’ve survived, you’ve earned the right to be careful with your energy, your trust, and your time.
Protecting your space is how you honor your growth.

Keep it quiet.
Move in peace.
Not everyone is meant to come with you.

Being selective means choosing who deserves your time, trust, and energy. It’s not pride, it’s wisdom built from experience. Protecting your space is a form of self-respect. When you learn to guard your peace, life feels lighter and clearer. Keep your circle small, your standards high, and your heart safe from those who only pretend to care.

Keep it quiet.
Move in peace.
Not everyone deserves access.

10/25/2025

Healing doesn’t always look like long journaling sessions.
Sometimes it’s a single sentence that shifts how you see yourself.

Try one tonight — and notice how your body softens. 🌿

10/24/2025

Therapy doesn’t just help you heal your past —
it helps you practice healthier love in the present.

💬 Which lesson do you need the most right now?

1️⃣ Safety isn’t boring — it’s peace.
When you stop confusing chaos with passion,
you finally make space for real connection.

2️⃣ Boundaries protect love.
Healthy love respects your limits.
It doesn’t demand you abandon yourself to stay connected.

3️⃣ Consistency is care.
It’s not the grand gestures —
it’s the follow-through, the small things done with care.

Which of these lessons do you want to live out this week?