Couples and Family Therapy of Jacksonville, LLC

09/02/2025

Do you ever worry about your worry or get angry at your anger?

If so, try your best Spock impression. Seriously—you can often cut an emotional downward spiral short if you learn to observe your thoughts and emotions with a gently removed Spock-like objectivity.

Instead of "I can't believe my teenager just said that...they don’t respect me...our relationship is so fraught..." and so on and so forth, try:

"It appears that my teenager has been rude to me. This is uncomfortable. I am feeling upset. It seems I really value being a patient parent and mutual respect, and those values are being challenged right now."

Even the subtlest shift in internal language can sometimes mean the difference between an impulsive reaction and a carefully meditated response.

09/02/2025

Our emotions point to what we care about most. We tend not to feel as strongly about things that aren’t meaningful to us.

What is your anger trying to tell you? What steps can you take to support the value that’s being threatened?

09/02/2025

Save these phrases for when you need them ❤️

08/04/2025

If you hurt your partner, it doesn’t matter if you think what you did was perfectly acceptable. All that matters is they are hurt. Let go of your pride and make amends.

A failure to quickly repair injuries, misunderstandings, or perceptions of insensitivity will gradually catch up to you and harm your relationship.

08/03/2025

08/01/2025

This is great advise!

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07/18/2025

If you have questions about couples therapy, this short video explains the model of therapy called Emotionally Focused Therapy. Because it has robust research to support effectiveness, it’s the model I choose to use in my counseling.

Taming the Cycle: a lighthearted introduction to one of the key elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy for anyone who wants to improve their relationship a...

06/29/2025

What other phrases would you add to this?

06/29/2025

06/07/2025

Have you an experience with withholding or leaving something out, was just as painful as being lied to?

05/25/2025

We are bonding creatures. If we don't bond in healthy ways then we will find ways to cope. Unmet needs drives most pathology.

P**n = loneliness sold as s*x
Alcohol = escape sold as fun
Fast food = poison sold as food
Luxuries = emptiness sold as joy
Video games = isolation sold as play
Celebrities = ads sold as role models
Drugs = numbness sold as happiness
Social media = likes sold as friendship
Smoking = addiction sold as relaxation
Scrolling = distraction sold as downtime
Cheap dopamine is the Trojan horse of modern misery.
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🎨 ✍️ andreeva

04/19/2025