Shannon McFauls, LMHC

08/16/2025

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07/25/2025

As a family trauma specialist, I incorporate reparenting into therapy for parents trying to break the cycle. Reparenting can also help you show up as a partner in your relationship without the same old wounds getting in the way. Its hard work and so worth the effort!

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07/21/2025

NeuroWild does it again! A beautiful explanation of the importance of co-regulation beyond the baby and little kid stage. Even most adult to adult relationships could use more of this 🫂

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06/09/2025

This morning I entered a new phase for my practice with a satellite location 2 days a month in St. Marys, GA to better serve my military families near the Kings Bay Naval Base. Thank you to Rewritten Counseling for creating such a welcoming space for my clients ✨️

06/03/2025

✨️New Hours, New Look✨️
Mytherapistshannon.com is now available full time and accepting health insurance for Florida and Georgia clients both in person and online! My website is brand new to match my growing offerings for relationship issues, parenting and behavior problems, and trauma. Schedule your free consultation today 💚

04/24/2025

Reclaiming Melissa has a great metaphor for why it feels so hard to heal. Let's think about running the marathon of healing burnout in terms of preparation and training, not quick fixes.

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04/17/2025

This affirming guide to understanding neurodiverse family members is A+++. Follow for more important insights on celebrating minds of all kinds.

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03/21/2025

In my last post, generosity was discussed as a healthy coping skill. But what about when generosity is harming a relationship?

Frequently I see these dynamics between older individuals and their adult children, with misunderstanding on both sides fueling angst and disconnection. What would it take to move towards connection?

✨️Authenticity and Trust✨️

But how many of us naturally experience enough security to do this easily? Unfortunately, very few. Fortunately, it can be learned. Visit mytherapistshannon.com to connect with me about learning a new way for your relationships!

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What appears on the surface to be generosity is sometimes an attempt to control or go “one up.”

Let’s explore.

Example 1:
Person A: I’ll pick up the tab for dinner.
Person B: That’s OK. Let’s split the bill please.
Person A: Oh no. I insist!

Example 2:
Person A: If you can’t go to the party, I’ll just stay home with you.
Person B: That’s OK. You should go without me.
Person A: Oh no. I insist!

Context matters. In these two vignettes, before making a sweeping declaration about power plays, we’d want to understand individual histories, cultural context, & the relationship between these people.

But here’s what I want to invite you to look at:
When you *insist* on being generous, what’s going on inside of you? You might be tempted to say, “I love them & I’m just being nice.” Peel back a layer. Look a bit more deeply. Ask yourself this question: What uncomfortable feeling am I avoiding by insisting?

Example 1: Person A might be avoiding feelings of insecurity.
They may be afraid that their presence isn’t enough. They may feel like Person B needs to be impressed or indebted to want time with them.

Example 2: Person A might be avoiding feelings of selfishness.
They may be afraid that making a choice to spend time separately is tantamount to abandonment.

In either example, Person A may fear retaliation- if I don’t bend over backwards, I’ll be accused later of cruelty/rudeness. This fear may have understandable roots in a prior relationship where “That’s OK” meant anything but.

A hallmark of a healthy relationship is that feedback can be shared and trusted. Words match intention. What is spoken is aligned with what is meant.

1. You are free to make an offering that arises from a place of genuine desire, not “should.”
2. I check in with myself and feel free to accept or decline based on what feels aligned for me.
3. You feel able to trust my answer.

When this is the sequence of events, our bond is deepened because of our PROCESS, not because of any particular OUTCOME.

NOT because you offered something nice.
NOT because I accepted or declined.

But because each of us felt able to speak truth from a place of Relational Self-Awareness.

03/13/2025

Published research on generosity as part of a category of coping skills called "accessing our higher self". Even less than a penny a day had a positive impact - small acts of kindness to others, not even monetary ones, are a very doable coping skills that bring us out of the stuckness and low self esteem of depression.

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01/15/2025

Taking new clients in Florida and Georgia who want to unlearn this pattern and start healing the poison!

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12/04/2023

keeps it 💯, no matter how long ago this book was originally published.

I probably recommend at least one of these practices every single day. My absolute favorite though:

Seek first to understand, and then to be understood. 💚💚💚

10/27/2023

This is a powerful message of self-love after going through a traumatic event or relationship. If you could have, you would have ❤️‍🩹

Both can be true.

Both probably ARE true.

Hand over heart: I wish I would have done that differently, AND, at the time, I couldn’t.

Because we are human. Because we are imperfect. Because we didn’t know yet. Because we are messy. Because it’s okay. Because this is life.

You are still loved, even in your regrets. 🤍