01/02/2026
Every January, we tell ourselves: This is the year.
And yet, New Year’s resolutions have nearly an 80% failure rate.
Why?
Because the thing you’re trying to change in January probably didn’t suddenly appear on December 31st.
If it’s something that feels difficult, sticky, or tied to an unhealthy pattern, chances are you’ve been aware of it all year. Maybe even for years. You’ve noticed it. You’ve thought about working on it. You’ve likely tried—more than once.
The New Year feels powerful because it represents a beginning. A clean slate. A moment where change feels possible.
But here’s the catch:
We’re often very good at identifying what we want to fix—and far less practiced at understanding how to begin.
So we decide that on January 1st, something we’ve struggled with all year will suddenly no longer be an issue. No plan. No deeper exploration. Just sheer willpower.
And willpower alone rarely works.
Real change usually requires us to ask harder questions:
• Have we explored why this has been hard to shift before?
• Have we identified the beliefs, patterns, or protective parts that keep this behavior in place?
• Have we looked at the secondary gains—what this pattern might be giving us?
• Have we created a plan that honors these barriers instead of ignoring them?
Without this groundwork, resolutions become declarations rather than strategies.
And if you’re reading this thinking, “So should I just stop trying?”
Absolutely not.
New Year’s resolutions can be a powerful starting point—but they work best when paired with:
✔️ realistic goals
✔️ a realistic timeline
✔️ and most importantly, a plan
Sometimes the first step in that plan isn’t changing the behavior at all—it’s understanding why it exists in the first place.
Change is possible.
But it’s built through awareness, compassion, and structure—not overnight promises.
Here’s to resolutions that turn into real transformation
For thousands of years, humans have created New Year's resolutions for a fresh start in the new year. Year after year, as January 1st approaches, we pick a g...