02/15/2023
What Kind of Adult are You Raising?
As we get caught up in the day to day routine of raising children, we can get bogged down with the tasks at hand and not focus on the “end goal.” We need to remember that the end goal is that we are raising our kids to become adults.
Parents have to decide early on what kind of adult they want their kids to become and steer them in that direction. As with any relationship, we have to be intentional about our interactions, whether it be with our spouse, sibling, best friend or parent. If we aren’t intentional about nurturing those relationships, they will fade away, or the chaos of the world will determine how that relationship will go and ultimately the direction in which your child will go.
Also, if we as parents focus ONLY on making sure our kids follow the rules, or obey, study and make good grades, which are all necessary and great qualities, we aren’t nurturing the relationship, but are instead teaching them to only value tasks, accomplishments and things of that nature. These are all wonderful and necessary, but they won’t make your adult child want to spend time with you when they are grown and out of the house. Balance is key. Having that close relationship, will also help you steer your child in the direction you have planned
for him/her.
Having a “close relationship” does not mean, giving in to their every whim and want, never saying “no,” not having them do chores, etc., because this is part of our job as parents. It only means, that you spend time with them, listen to them,
laugh and have fun, and especially being consistent in your words and actions so they can trust what you say. This also teaches them to honor you.
The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not turn from it. Basically, you have to determine the kind of adult you want to raise and the kind of relationship you want to have with them.
No parent is perfect! However, I feel that having a plan helps.
If you would like help building a relationship with your child, please call us at CCA 870-935-4102.