05/05/2026
I came across this very vulnerable post, and it felt like one of the sweetest gifts you can give yourself…
Life is always a work in progress. What goes around comes back around — like an infinite spiral, always nudging you forward.
In 2012, I attended a 5-day emotional healing retreat at the Omega Institute in upstate New York. It was one of the most transformative experiences of my life, and it has stayed with me ever since.
The core of it was mutuality — with yourself and with others. And learning to stay on your path to pleasure.
(Not sexual… more like emotional bliss.)
What excites you? What brings you joy? What feels good in your body and your life? Follow that.
Following your path to pleasure looks like autonomy and affiliation — being fully yourself while still connected.
Mutuality is that space between you and me.
Guilt and shame can derail you… so be gentle with yourself. Especially that internal voice no one else hears — that’s the one to work on. Shift it. Soften it.
We’re all walking the same path in some way… the path back to what feels true, alive, and aligned.
This was also where I learned how to truly hold space for others — the way a shaman holds space for a client. We practiced holotropic breathing, and we had to sit with people as they went through their own journeys.
One of the most important rules:
You don’t interrupt the process.
You don’t intervene.
You allow them to be… until they ask for help, or unless they are at risk of harming themselves or others.
And honestly… that applies to life, too.
We need to start staying in our own lanes.
Stop trying to regulate others — and learn to regulate yourself.
When you stand in what you know and speak from truth, you shine.
And when you shine, the right people places & things are naturally drawn to you — like a moth to a flame.