12/21/2025
One of the hardest parts of loving an avoidant is slowly forgetting what emotional availability is supposed to feel like.
You deserved consistency without having to remind someone you matter.
Communication that didn’t feel like walking on eggshells.
Effort that came freely — not only when things were about to fall apart.
You deserved closeness without being punished for wanting it.
Space that didn’t come with silence, fear, or emotional withdrawal.
Accountability that didn’t turn into defensiveness or distance.
And most of all, you deserved love that stayed when you needed it most — not love that vanished the moment things became real.
This isn’t about blaming anyone. It’s about remembering what your nervous system was asking for all along: safety, clarity, and emotional presence.