11/19/2025
Next time you “fall off,” don’t white-knuckle your way back.
Do this:
1️⃣ Audit the trigger, not the outcome.
Ask: “What was happening mentally and emotionally before I skipped the thing,
became overwhelmed, built resentment,felt exhausted, or started People-pleasing?
Write one sentence about it; and that’s the real problem.
2️⃣ Separate failure from pattern.
Instead of saying “I always do this,” say instead: “This is a pattern I’m in, it’s not the person I am.”
Language matters. Identity follows words.
3️⃣ Install a small-commitment.
•Choose a 5–10 minute action that interrupts the old pattern:
•5-minute walk after work instead of collapsing straight into the couch
•Logging one meal instead of giving up tracking for the day
•Lying on the floor and taking 10 slow breaths before raiding the pantry
You’re not proving you’re “good.”
You’re interrupting the automated triggers and proving to your nervous system that When you get triggered, you don’t disappear and hide anymore. You’re responding differently now.”
This is the type of work I do with my clients inside Forged Anew.
We don’t go off vibes; Or “try again Monday.”
We focus on pattern disruption + identity work + emotional awareness.
Screenshot this checklist and use it this week.