Fully Alive Coaching

04/28/2026

You can’t stop people from trying, but you can be ready to respond. In an attempt to get their needs met, some people will try to persuade you to change your mind. When you want something different, be assertive about it.

The best way to stop someone from guilt-tripping you is to recognize (in the moment) when it is happening and respond to the situation.

Sometimes people don't like it when you’re assertive, but it’s still necessary for you to be assertive.

Be kind and advocate for your needs.

04/27/2026

is an equal opportunity experience. The only people who aren’t at risk of experiencing it, are those who choose not to be in intimate partner relationships. The betrayal says NOT ONE THING about the betrayal. It says a lot about the betrayer. It’s important to understand this one fact before we engage in any discussion around the topic. STOP BLAMING VICTIMS!

04/26/2026

CPTSD and PTSD diverge most significantly in what researchers call the self organizing symptoms and this category is almost entirely absent from standard PTSD.

Self organizing symptoms include three specific areas that CPTSD produces and PTSD typically does not. First, disturbances in self perception. The chronic shame, the feeling of being permanently damaged, the belief that you are fundamentally different from other people in a way that cannot be fixed. Second, disturbances in relational patterns. The difficulty trusting, the push pull of intimacy, the tendency to repeat dynamics from the original trauma in new relationships. Third, disturbances in systems of meaning. The loss of faith, the inability to feel hope, the sense that the future is foreclosed or unreal. Judith Herman identified these clusters decades ago.

The ICD-11, the international diagnostic manual, formally recognized CPTSD as a distinct diagnosis in 2018. The DSM, the American diagnostic manual, still has not. That gap has real consequences for how survivors are diagnosed, treated, and whether their insurance covers what they actually need.

04/24/2026

Wisdom!!

04/24/2026

04/23/2026

Partying on a school night is definitely costing me today, but it was worth it. earned every sing dollar last night. The show was phenomenal, the vibes were immaculate and his mic was all the way ON! Go see him if he’s near you. Don’t forget to wear your red.

04/22/2026

Get off my phone!!!

Am I the only one being harassed?

04/21/2026

Share if you agree. 💌

And if you need help asking for support after a loss, check out my latest blog: https://www.shelbyforsythia.com/blog-archive/7-low-energy-ways-to-ask-for-help-when-youre-deep-in-grief..

04/21/2026

Why Does He Do That?

Because it works.

Abuse creates fear.
Fear creates compliance.
And compliance gives him control.

Let’s be clear:

❌ It’s not caused by stress
❌ It’s not caused by alcohol
❌ It’s not because you “triggered” him
❌ It’s not something you can fix by loving him better

Abuse is a choice.
And because it’s a choice,
the responsibility is never yours.

If you’ve been confused…
If you’ve been blamed…
If you’ve been trying to make sense of what doesn’t make sense…

You are not crazy.
You are not the problem.
And you are not alone.

At Called to Peace Ministries, we walk with women toward clarity, safety, and healing.

And we also believe this:

If abuse is going to stop,
it must be confronted at the root.

That’s why G5 exists.

Not as marriage counseling.
Not as reconciliation pressure.

But as a call to accountability for men,
while women receive independent advocacy, safety planning, and support.

Because your healing should never depend
on whether he changes.

But real change?
That requires truth, humility… and accountability.

Learn more about our G5 course here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aImm96A-yBhObSQH-qp3mX-Gef2fVzkw34qIilmROYg/edit?tab=t.0

04/21/2026

Research in psychology suggests that individuals with high levels of narcissistic traits may sometimes engage with therapy in ways that differ from its intended purpose. Instead of focusing on self-reflection and emotional growth, they can use therapeutic conversations to construct and reinforce a personal narrative that maintains their self-image, often emphasizing victimhood or superiority.

Studies within clinical and personality psychology indicate that this pattern may be linked to دفاع mechanisms such as self-enhancement and avoidance of vulnerability. However, this does not mean therapy is ineffective for such individuals; with the right approach—such as structured interventions and strong therapeutic boundaries—it can still promote insight and behavioral change over time.

04/21/2026

Over-explaining is your mind hoping the next sentence will get through to a person who already chose not to hear you. Here's what's happening: 👇

That's a conditioned response built in a relationship where being misunderstood felt dangerous. So now you keep reaching, rewording, softening, adding context, trying to earn a response that isn't coming.

Their first reaction was the answer. But it didn't feel good.

You repeated yourself because you thought explaining it one more time would fix it. You sent the long text. You circled back three different ways.

That loop is your mind chasing a resolution the other person already refused to give you.
The answer was in their response the first time. Every follow-up is negotiating with a decision they already made.

Forward this to the friend stuck on paragraph three of a text nobody's going to reply to. ❤️‍🩹