Fully Alive Coaching

12/12/2025

I love this!

12/11/2025

12/11/2025

This is a love note for a very specific group of women in my community: the ones doing Christmas alone. This is my sixth Christmas as a single parent. I have a big family and it has only grown since that first solo Christmas in 2020. And let me be clear up front: I love Christmas. I love my big fam. I love my big kids. I love this time of year. I love traditions and big dinners. I love giving gifts and making magic. So this is coming from someone who is INTO IT ALL.

This time of year, I feel the lack of a spouse most acutely. In the best of times, Christmas for our family was a two-man job, and even then, we both worked our little fingers to the bone to get it all decorated, hung, shopped, bought, wrapped, assigned, managed, cooked, sorted, and finished. December meant a million decisions a day and a thousand moving parts. The division of labor was an absolute requirement to get it all done. Just my half of the work for two and half decades was fully overwhelming.

And now I do all of it by myself. A bunch of you do too. It’s all on you. You are keeping the traditions going, the house decorated. You are doing all the shopping, all the managing. You are in charge of everyone’s everything. There is no one to hand anything off to. No one to take half. No one to even take a decision off your plate. It is actually hard to describe how lonely and hard this can be.

So I see you. I know you are working so very hard. I know how much you love your family and want to make this season beautiful for them. I understand the fatigue.

And here’s what I want you to know: https://jenhatmaker.com/blog/a-love-note-for-those-doing-christmas-alone/

12/08/2025

12/07/2025

12/05/2025

I needed this today! Sending love to anyone else who needs encouragement.

Being a mom while grieving the person you once built a family with is a different kind of heavy.

You’re trying to breathe through heartbreak, coparenting struggles, sort out housing, regain financial stability, hold back tears, and piece together a future you didn’t ask for, all while your kids stand in the middle of it, needing stability, attention, and love you’re fighting to give even when you feel completely empty.

And on top of that, you’re managing a stressful job, their school demands, behavior issues, routines, melt-downs, homework, lunches, dinner, appointments, and expectations, trying to stay calm, loving, and present …all while pretending you’re okay so they can feel safe.

Most days you don’t know how you’re even functioning. You’re on autopilot, doing the impossible with strength you don’t recognize, showing up for them when no one shows up for you.

People don’t talk about this part.
You don’t get applause for carrying everything with almost nothing.
But I see you.
And I’m proud of you.
Hang in there. 💚

12/05/2025

Yes, women file the majority of the divorces.

But quoting that stat in isolation, without quoting WHY the women are filing, paints a very distorted picture.

Over 60% of women who file for divorce cite their husbands doing at least one of these: abuse, infidelity, or addictions.

Among Christians, it's even higher.

The divorce isn't what killed the marriage. The destructive behaviour was.

12/05/2025

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