06/17/2025
If I get dementia, I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
🌸1a. Every time you enter the room announce yourself. “Hi Mum- it’s Margaret.”
NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.
🌸1. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.
🌸2. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
🌸3. If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
🌸4. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
🌸5. If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
🌸6. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
🌸7. If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
🌸8. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
🌸9. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
🌸10. If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
🌸11. If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
🌸12. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
🌸13. If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room.
🌸14. If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
🌸15. If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
🌸16. If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
🌸17. If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
🌸18. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
🌸19. If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
🌸20. If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
🌸21. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.”
💐June is Alzheimer’s Awareness Month…you’re never more aware than when this disease hits your family!🌹
