EverGrowth Haven

10/22/2025

I am not a therapist .We are not therapists . I just thought this is very interesting

https://www.instagram.com/p/DQHMeoejANv/?img_index=7&igsh=ZGc5Z3Qxd29ocmVm

10/17/2025

10/16/2025

10/16/2025

10/16/2025

“Unmasking the Layers”

When I got sober, it felt like waking up in someone else’s mind.
All the noise I used to quiet with chaos suddenly got loud —
and underneath it, I started to see patterns.

What I thought was just “me being me” — the racing thoughts, the sensitivity, the quick highs and quicker crashes —
turned out to have a name: ADHD.
Except it wasn’t new.
It had been there all along, hidden behind survival.

Learning about ADHD was like finding a flashlight in a dark room —
it didn’t fix anything, but it showed me where to look.
And what I found underneath that light was trauma.
Not from what I’d done —
but from what my nervous system learned before I ever had words for it.

See, I didn’t walk into the world with a blank slate.
I was wired for adaptation from day one —
a body tuned to uncertainty,
a brain built to notice what others miss.
That’s not dysfunction.
That’s intelligence under pressure.

Trauma work didn’t break me open.
It helped me understand the architecture of how I survived.
How sobriety stripped away my old shields,
how ADHD explained my wiring,
and how complex trauma explained my responses.

It’s not that I became neurodivergent —
it’s that life shaped my brain to see and feel differently.
Every coping mechanism was my body’s way of saying,
“I’m still here.”

This journey isn’t about healing some broken version of me —
it’s about learning the rhythm of how I’ve always moved through life.
And yeah… sometimes that rhythm sounds like a joke at my own expense.
But now, when I laugh at myself,
I know exactly who I’m laughing with.

-❤️

10/12/2025

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AEgLLFPtG/

Studies suggest that social support and connections, specifically communicating with female friends, can help lower cortisol levels in women.

Cortisol is often referred to as the stress hormone, and maintaining healthy levels is important for overall well-being.

Talking to someone you trust can help you process emotions and release tension, reducing stress and anxiety.

Also, the tendency for women to “tend-and-befriend” during stressful situations, seeking social support and bonding with others, is supported by research showing reduced cortisol levels after interacting with female friends.

Studies have shown that when women engage in supportive social interactions, such as talking with female friends or embracing a romantic partner, their cortisol levels tend to be lower than when dealing with stress alone or with unfamiliar individuals.

09/30/2025

Hi, I’m Melle 👋

I don’t come with rigid fixes or show up as a coach with something polished to teach.
I come as a master guru of stumbling through life and learning from it, because we are ever-f***ing-growing — at least I am.

My work isn’t about telling people what to do; it’s about walking beside them, holding space, listening, and figuring things out together. Sometimes that means helping someone find resources, sometimes it’s just being the person who actually hears them, and sometimes it’s sharing the messy parts of my own journey so no one feels alone while they’re still figuring it out too.

That’s why I started EverGrowth Haven — a free community space where people can slow down, have honest conversations, and rebuild themselves in their own way. No sales pitch, no quick fixes. Just people helping people, learning and growing together.
Come hang out if you’re curious, if you need a place to land for a bit, or if you just want to connect.
Poo

09/30/2025

AuADHD & EverGrowth Haven

I didn’t grow up hearing the word AuADHD.
I just grew up feeling different. Too loud. Too quiet. Too much. Too scattered. Too intense. Too sensitive. Too… everything.

Finding out that I live at the crossroads of Autism & ADHD has been both relief and grief.
Relief — because suddenly the puzzle pieces click into place: the way I process the world, the sensory overload, the hyperfocus and burnout cycles, the deep empathy mixed with social exhaustion.
Grief — because I realize how long I spent believing I was broken when I was just wired differently.

And the thing is:
Doctors didn’t explain this. Systems didn’t guide me here. I had to fight, research, and trust my own lived experience to find language for what I feel.

That’s why I created EverGrowth Haven.
It’s not therapy.
It’s not a “fix yourself fast” program.
It’s a community space where neurodivergent humans — especially those who are still piecing together their story — can show up as they are. We talk openly, we share strategies, we laugh about the weird stuff, we sit with the hard parts. We don’t rush to slap on labels or force a single “right” way to heal. We learn together. We grow, at our own pace.

If you’re late-diagnosed, self-discovering, or just tired of feeling like an alien in your own life, you belong here.

✨ EverGrowth Haven — because sometimes what we need most isn’t fixing; it’s finding each other.

















(even if it’s sideways)