EverGrowth Haven

12/03/2025

11/30/2025

When holding your breath is safer than breathing
When letting go is braver than keeping
When innocent words turn to lies
And you can't hide by closing your eyes
When the pain is all that they offer
Like the kiss from the lips of a monster
You know the famine so well, but never met the feast
When home is the belly of a beast
The ocean is wild and over your head
And the boat beneath you is sinking
Don't need room for your bags, hope is all that you have
So say the Lord's Prayer twice, hold your babies tight
Surely someone will reach out a hand
And show you a safe place to land
Oh, imagine yourself in a building
Up in flames, being told to stand still
The window's wide open, this is leap is on faith
You don't know who will catch you, but maybe somebody will
The ocean is wild and over your head
And the boat beneath you is sinking
Don't need room for your bags, hope is all that you have
So say the Lord's Prayer twice, hold your babies tight
Surely someone will reach out a hand
And show you a safe place to land
Be the hand of a hopeful stranger
Little scared, but you're strong enough
Be the light in the dark of this danger
'Til the sun comes up
Be the hand of a hopeful stranger
Little scared but you're strong enough
Be the light in the dark of this danger
'Til the sun comes up

https://youtu.be/r_yaSoW_mvE?si=Pd1cGcNToWaOSwb8

11/16/2025

Every relationship is two nervous systems and two children trying to feel safe together. What most people don’t realize is that beneath the surface of every adult interaction lies the echo of childhood—shy, fearful, hopeful, and sometimes wounded. Each partner carries their own history, their own insecurities, their own patterns of survival, and these often show up as tension, miscommunication, or overreaction. Love isn’t just about shared laughter, intimacy, or romantic gestures; it’s about noticing when your partner’s inner child feels scared, when their nervous system is triggered, and choosing to respond with patience, empathy, and understanding rather than frustration or blame.

A healthy relationship requires conscious effort to co-regulate—learning to soothe each other’s nervous systems, to offer safety when fear arises, and to listen when old pain resurfaces. It’s about creating a container where both people feel seen and accepted, where vulnerability isn’t punished but welcomed. It’s about understanding that moments of conflict often aren’t attacks but cries from the inner child seeking comfort, connection, and reassurance.

In this way, love becomes a practice of healing together, of holding space for the unhealed parts of ourselves and each other. It’s messy, sometimes uncomfortable, and rarely perfect—but when two people commit to nurturing both the adult and the child within, they create a bond that isn’t just based on attraction, but on deep, resilient safety, trust, and mutual growth. This is the essence of a relationship that truly lasts: two people learning to feel safe, not just in each other’s arms, but in each other’s hearts.

11/13/2025

Always practicing my knots… just in case....😈

10/22/2025

I am not a therapist .We are not therapists . I just thought this is very interesting

https://www.instagram.com/p/DQHMeoejANv/?img_index=7&igsh=ZGc5Z3Qxd29ocmVm