Intimate Partner Betrayal Alliance

05/09/2026

Reposting in honor of Betty Broderick and all of the women like her. May she rest in peace.

There are countless women like Betty Broderick, suffering the mental anguish of . We need systems in place to support women find safety and stability after betrayal. I wonder what Bett’s life would have been like had someone understood betrayal trauma and gotten her the help she needed. Her husband drove her to the edge and let her fall.
Women like Betty deserve better.

05/07/2026

There’s no excuse. It is a big deal. If you’re unhappy, leave. Be honest. Get some help for your stuff. No one deserves to be betrayed. is a form of relational abuse.

05/02/2026

Betrayal removes consent—and that’s why it cuts so deeply.

At its core, healthy relationships are built on trust, honesty, and mutual agreement. We choose to love, to give, to stay, because we believe we understand the reality we’re in.

But betrayal changes that.

When someone is dishonest—whether through infidelity, secrecy, or hidden behaviors—they take away your ability to make an informed choice. You weren’t given the full truth… yet you were still participating in the relationship as if you were.

That means:

You were giving your heart without knowing the real situation

You were making decisions based on incomplete or false information

You were investing in something you didn’t fully consent to

And that matters.

Because what many people call “just a mistake” is actually a violation of trust, safety, and agency. It’s not only about what was done—it’s about what was hidden.

This is why betrayal can feel disorienting. It shakes your sense of reality. It can make you question your judgment, your memories, even yourself.

But here’s the truth:

What happened to you wasn’t just painful—it was a breach of your right to choose.

And healing involves more than forgiveness. It involves reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your ability to make empowered decisions again.

05/01/2026

04/29/2026

One of the most toxic teachings in the church is the idea that a wife is responsible for fixing her husband and making him a better, more s*xually healthy man.

“Give him more s*x so he doesn’t cheat.” “Keep the house cleaner. “Make more meals.”“Be more submissive.”This is the crap women are regularly told by religious leaders. (This is music to an entitled man’s ears and only furthers his own illness.)

But what if the real issue has little to nothing to do with the wife? What if the husband is a grown ass man who is responsible for his own integrity, discipline, and character? What if he alone gets to choose what kind of man he wants to be?

A wife is an equal partner, not a rehab center for unhealed and entitled boys.

Men, you are more than capable of doing the healing work that is necessary.

Set your wife free.

04/27/2026

Loving someone is not dumb. You’re not stupid for choosing to be kind to others. What people do with that love and kindness says more about them, and does not indict you. Don’t let make you hard or bitter. It’s an opportunity to learn, become wiser. and decide who you want to be going forward.

04/27/2026

don’t need a lecture. They need compassion, empathy, and validation. They need to hear that what they’ve experienced was not their fault and that they aren’t stupid for choosing to give love a chance. you’re the bravest among us. Hold your head up sister.

04/27/2026

is an equal opportunity experience. The only people who aren’t at risk of experiencing it, are those who choose not to be in intimate partner relationships. The betrayal says NOT ONE THING about the betrayal. It says a lot about the betrayer. It’s important to understand this one fact before we engage in any discussion around the topic. STOP BLAMING VICTIMS!

04/26/2026

CPTSD and PTSD diverge most significantly in what researchers call the self organizing symptoms and this category is almost entirely absent from standard PTSD.

Self organizing symptoms include three specific areas that CPTSD produces and PTSD typically does not. First, disturbances in self perception. The chronic shame, the feeling of being permanently damaged, the belief that you are fundamentally different from other people in a way that cannot be fixed. Second, disturbances in relational patterns. The difficulty trusting, the push pull of intimacy, the tendency to repeat dynamics from the original trauma in new relationships. Third, disturbances in systems of meaning. The loss of faith, the inability to feel hope, the sense that the future is foreclosed or unreal. Judith Herman identified these clusters decades ago.

The ICD-11, the international diagnostic manual, formally recognized CPTSD as a distinct diagnosis in 2018. The DSM, the American diagnostic manual, still has not. That gap has real consequences for how survivors are diagnosed, treated, and whether their insurance covers what they actually need.