04/30/2026
Ho‘oponopono
I see signs and messages often. When they repeat, I pay attention. When they repeat in several places over several weeks I know it will be life changing. That's what happned with Ho'oponopono.
I had limited awareness and knowledge about the Ho’oponopono prayer before its arrival in my life. When anxiety and unsteadiness would grasp me tightly and all my usual go-to’s weren’t working, I tried this prayer hoping the reason it was appearing so much was because I needed to use it. Within 10 minutes of the first time I tired it, I saw it manifesting in real time. I don’t have the space here to give you all the details but suffice it to say it was proof positive to me that when I focus on grounding healing within my body the ripple to others in my life was quite tangible - proven in the phone call I received. And that has happened MULTIPLE times since I started using this.
I want to share this prayer and its power with you. Many times the simple is the most profound. This ritual, this ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and release, is precision medicine for the nervous system that no other traditional modality can reach. The 4 phrases, spoken out loud to yourself or silently, about a situation, a relationship, an experienced emotion that is clinging to you, releases. It may not be immediate and it may take repeating it for several days or weeks depending on how deeply inside your nervous system this experience is stored.
You do not have to understand this for it to work. The success of it does not require intellectual agreement. Repetition is power and you’re tapping into the power rooted in thousands of years of practice by those who came before you. THAT is transformative power! The energetic exposure to the signal these 4 phrases generate recodes what your physical body holds on to. This creates transformation without force, without reliving anything, without even more processing or analyzing trying to “see” something different in it.
We can not change the past. We can shift our relation to it. We can shift the way it affects our present. This works on situations that involve people who have passed on, people you are no longer in contact with, locations you have fled from, and trauma that seeded early in life that you maybe can’t clearly define - you just feel the residue in your body.
Elevated cortisol, sleep disruptions, weakened immune function, chronic low grade anxiety, brain fog, unexplained inflammation in the body can all be a result of the tension your nervous system has long been used to carrying and has written off as “normal”.
You can choose to look at this as a ceremony, but more than anything, it is an accessible daily practice to resolve conflicts (past and present) and restore harmony to the body. Our bodies are constantly communicating with us and sometimes it shares in ways we aren’t ready to acknowledge. These 4 phrases shift that without needing to name it. It taps into self forgiveness - you’re apologizing to yourself for the energy you have spent holding this. Not specific decisions or choices or mindset. You are releasing your nervous system and body from the obligation of keeping the wound open.
Unexpressed emotions leave the body in a perpetual state of fight or flight, fawn or freeze. The act of removing unfinished business, emotional loops that never closed, translates to peace within the body. Peace you deserve. Again, you don’t have to understand it for it to work.
I set aside specific times to say these as well as whispering them any time I feel the swell of anxiety or grief building in me. If I can, I place one hand on my heart and one hand below my naval (not required). Energetically these chakras hold an enormous amount of emotional energy for our bodies.
4 Phrases:
I’m Sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you
(in that order)
I’ve uttered these at least 15 times since my day started today. If you choose to try it and want to share, I’d love a DM or comment on how you felt using it. Give it some time. Like a new pair of shoes, sometimes it takes a little bit of time wearing it before it feels like home.
