06/08/2025
Attunement ✨❤️�June 4th
✨ Quote:�"Being seen, being heard, feeling felt, and getting gotten." — Sarah Schlote
I first encountered the word attunement in the writings of Daniel Siegel. In The Mindful Therapist, he defines it as “the act of focusing on another person (or ourselves) to bring into our awareness the internal state of the other.” In other words, it’s a process of resonance—of deeply sensing and aligning with another.
Science is now revealing remarkable things about resonance and our electromagnetic fields. We can literally feel with and for others. But this isn’t a passive reality—our fields are changeable. Through focus, meditation, environment, and our relationships, we influence what we carry and what we share.
Sarah Schlote, founder of Equusoma, offers a grounded and heartfelt definition: “Being seen, being heard, feeling felt, and getting gotten.” This kind of attunement applies to humans and animals. It involves mindful presence and response—creating safety and connection.
When was the last time you felt truly "gotten"?�When did you last make someone else feel seen?
Often we move through life bouncing off people—going through the motions without true connection. I’ve come home feeling unseen, even after spending the day with people I love. I’ve noticed arguments with my husband often stem from this: neither of us feels understood or emotionally met. My children, when they're acting out, often just need attunement. Even horses, when they nip or misbehave, may be signaling the same thing: you don’t see me.
The HeartMath Institute calls this lack of resonance incoherence. But when our hearts enter coherence—when they beat in a harmonious rhythm—everything improves: thought, emotion, and connection.
Attunement is not a luxury. It is the foundation of healthy relationship.
💭 Thought for the Day:�Can I create the space for someone to feel seen, heard, felt, and gotten?�Can I open enough to receive that for myself?
🙏 Human Exercise for the Day: The Date Stop & Listen�Choose someone you want to feel more attuned with. Invite them somewhere simple and meaningful. Bring a favorite snack or drink and try this 5–5–5 connection practice:
Share 5 things you appreciate about one another
Share 5 thoughts or ideas you’ve been pondering lately
Share 5 emotional memories from the past week and how they affected you
If you’re spiritually inclined, close with a quiet moment to hold each other in light or prayer.
🐎 Horse Exercise for the Day: Presence & Touch�Take a chair and sit with your horse. If they’re pushy, sit outside the fence. Quiet your body. Notice everything: sounds, smells, textures. Your horse breathing or chewing. The feel of your seat. The tension in your own muscles. This is coherence.
If your horse is comfortable with touch, find their favorite scratch spots—behind the ears, under the neck or belly. Lay your hand gently on any scars or sore places. Say aloud or inwardly:�"I love you. I appreciate you. I am proud of you."
Offer gentle stretches—lift each leg slightly, let them lean into it. The Masterson Method offers guidance, and I’ve posted videos with simple techniques on my page. Remember: your presence is the reward—not treats.
🌱 Next time you work with your horse, observe closely. A twitch of the eye, tension in the lips, a moment of stillness—these are the whispers of their nervous system. Warwick Schiller writes beautifully about this. When you notice the subtle signs and respond, you’re saying, “I see what you see.” You become a trustworthy partner another sentient being. When a horse says “no,” soften or remove your ask, wait. When they feel safe, they’ll come forward—not just physically, but emotionally. True training can only happen when both parties have a calm electromagnetic field and a coherent state.
We all learn best in a calm environment.�Attunement is love in action. 🙏💫
