01/20/2026
There are patterns in us that we don’t always like.
But shaming ourselves (or the people we love) for those reactions only keeps them stuck.
Real change doesn’t come from hating parts of yourself into submission. (If that worked we’d all be healed by this point- but it doesn’t)
It comes from getting curious about where those reactions were learned, how they once HELPED you survive, and why your nervous system still reaches for them.
When we heal the wounds underneath the pattern, the reaction doesn’t have to work so hard anymore.
And that’s how change actually happens not through blame, but through understanding, safety, and practice.