
07/31/2024
If you have food allergies, it can take years to build up the confidence to challenge negative behaviours and attitudes about them from others - something we have been discussing in the past few weeks.
When such comments are directed at children, we need to draw a line. A distraught parent recently described the painful moment when her daughter was excluded from a birthday celebration, ‘You can't come to my party because my parents think your food allergies are really hard work.’
Hearing this was of course upsetting, possibly even more so because it originated from a parent - an adult. We have heard of a number of instances where negative and thoughtless comments made by adults about a child’s food allergies has led the child to feeling particularly isolated and anxious, especially when they are outside the home.
The comment described here happened in school and devastated this little girl. Yet despite her exclusion, her mother said she showed remarkable maturity, suggesting she could give her friend his birthday present the next day. Unfortunately, she also faces bullying because of her food allergies, adding to her daily struggles. Yet despite all these challenges, she remains resilient and is always kind to others.
Where do you draw the line?