06/08/2025
The Sacred Art of Holding Space
Holding space for someone isn’t about having the right words. It’s about being able to sit with what’s raw, tender, or unspoken—without rushing to fix it, label it, or rescue them from their own truth.
But here’s the truth:
We cannot hold space for others if we haven’t learned to hold it for ourselves first.
If we’re uncomfortable with silence, we’ll fill it.
If we’re afraid of pain, we’ll try to bypass it.
If we’ve never let ourselves be fully witnessed without judgment, we may not know how to offer that gift to someone else.
Sometimes, we interrupt sacred processing by inserting advice, “positive” spin, or stories of our own.
Not because we mean harm, but because we’ve never been taught how to be with discomfort.
But here’s the thing—
When someone is brave enough to share their heart with us, our job isn’t to rescue them. It’s to reverently witness them.
To trust their capacity.
To honor the space between words.
To say with our presence: “You are not alone. And I trust you to walk through this.”
That kind of listening—deep, body-wide, sacred listening—can be a balm that no advice could ever replace.
Start with yourself.
Practice holding space for your own messy, quiet, complicated parts.
Then watch how your presence transforms the way others feel in your company.
This is how we heal.
Together.
One sacred silence at a time. 💜
