Totum Counseling and Consulting

01/07/2026

Your trauma is a chapter, not the whole book. 📖

We all have chapters we wish we could edit out—the ones heavy with grief, marked by trauma, or clouded by that "stuck" feeling. When you’re in the middle of those pages, it’s easy to believe the ink has dried and the ending is already written.

But what if I told you that those heavy chapters are just that—chapters? They have shaped you, but they do not define you. Your story isn’t over; in fact, it’s just getting interesting.

True healing isn't about "fixing" a single problem; it’s about a comprehensive approach that honors the Mind, Heart, and Guts:

🧠 The Mind: Breaking the "autopilot" cycles that keep you stuck.

❤️ The Heart: Building relationships based on trust and vulnerability.

🔥 The Guts: Finding the courage to set boundaries and trust your intuition.

You have the power to pick up the pen and reclaim your narrative. You don’t have to walk this path alone.

Ready to start your next chapter? Read the full blog post here: https://totumcounseling.com/totum-table/2026/1/7/what-if-i-told-you-your-trauma-isnt-the-end-of-your-story

Take the first step toward a life that feels authentic and whole—contact Totum Counseling today.

12/31/2025

11/25/2025

The holiday season is supposed to be joyful, but for many of us, it feels like an overflowing plate of stress, overcommitment, and rich, heavy expectations. 🍽️

If you're struggling to set boundaries or feel like you're carrying the emotional weight of the holidays alone, please reach out. You don't have to navigate this pressure by yourself.

Let us help you create space for genuine peace.

Contact Totum Counseling today.

11/21/2025

Share your wisdom below—we’re building this table together.

11/18/2025

"Boundaries are not the walls we build to keep others out; they are the property lines we draw to keep ourselves in. They are the ultimate act of self-preservation, not isolation."
— Dr. Nedra Glover Tawwab

Check out the full blog for more information: https://totumcounseling.com/totum-table/2025/11/18/the-sweet-spot-of-self-care-when-your-boundary-becomes-your-best-friend

If protecting your energy feels overwhelming contact Totum Counseling for support. You don't have to do this alone.

11/11/2025

Boundary Backlash is the sound of other people's expectations hitting the wall of your "No."
It feels like a fight, but it's not. You're just being clear! Use your Mind (facts), Heart (empathy without ownership), and Gut (consistency) to hold the line.
Protecting your energy isn't mean, it's mandatory.
Check out the full blog post on our website: https://totumcounseling.com/totum-table/2025/11/11/the-boundary-backlash-when-no-feels-like-starting-a-fight

If holding your boundaries feels overwhelming contact Totum Counseling for support. You don't have to do this alone.

11/04/2025

Boundaries are NOT walls. They are clear fences with a nice gate.
We are officially banishing the myth that setting a boundary makes you mean, selfish, or cold. It makes you clear. It makes you functional. It makes you an adult with a backbone.
Boundaries are our terms of engagement! They say "This is how you can treat me, and how I need to treat myself, so that I can show up as a functional, decent human being."
Check out the full blog for more information: https://totumcounseling.com/totum-table/2025/11/4/totum-table-boundaries-not-a-wall-just-a-fence-with-a-nice-gate
Remember you don’t have to navigate things alone. We are Totum Counseling are here to support you in identifying and expressing your boundaries. Contact us today!

10/28/2025

Totum Table will return next week with a whole new series on boundaries! Stay tuned and get ready to pull up a chair and nourish the whole of you--mind, heart, and guts!

10/24/2025

Pull up a chair for Totum Table: Relationship Management!
If you're tired of feeling stuck in old relationship patterns, this is where your Emotional Intelligence skills truly come alive. We teach you how to nourish your connections using your whole self: mind, heart, and guts.

Checkout the full blog: https://totumcounseling.com/totum-table/2025/10/21/beyond-awareness-how-to-build-lasting-connection

If you're ready to stop nourish your whole self and make better connections contact us for therapy today! We're here to support every step of the way. www.totumcounseling.com

10/21/2025

Pull up a chair for Totum Table: Relationship Management!

If you're tired of feeling stuck in old relationship patterns, this is where your Emotional Intelligence skills truly come alive. We teach you how to nourish your connections using your whole self: mind, heart, and guts.

Checkout the full blog: https://totumcounseling.com/totum-table/2025/10/21/beyond-awareness-how-to-build-lasting-connection

If you're ready to stop struggling, contact us for specialized therapy today! We're here to support every step of the way. www.totumcounseling.com