The Change Whisperer

10/02/2025

This is what 100 years old looks like

10/02/2025

10/02/2025

When you get down to the heart of the matter, it’s always the heart that matters.

"Your soft heart is not a weakness. It is a rare kind of strength."

We are often taught to believe that a tender, open heart is a vulnerability—a potential liability in a world that seems to reward hardness and emotional armor. Yet, this is a profound misunderstanding of true power.
Your soft heart is not a weakness; it is, in fact, the rarest and most potent kind of strength. It takes fierce courage to remain open to pain, to choose empathy when bitterness is easier, and to extend compassion when others have only offered hurt.

A rigid heart breaks; a soft heart bends, heals, and expands its capacity for love and joy. This intentional kindness, this ability to feel deeply and care authentically, requires more resilience than any shield ever could. It proves you possess the inner fortitude necessary to navigate the world without becoming cold or cynical, and that is the truest definition of an unbreakable spirit.

Mitra ➡ Tips That Change Your Life ❤☀

10/01/2025

Practicing pauses and movement.

There are times in life when we long for clarity, for neat endings and obvious beginnings. Yet more often than not, life unfolds in seasons that feel incomplete, uncertain, and unresolved. It can be tempting to hurry through them, to press for answers, to push for progress. But some of the most sacred transformations happen in the quiet spaces where nothing seems to move.

Blessed is this season, even if it feels unfinished, even if it feels unsure. Each falling leaf carries a lesson in letting go, reminding us that release is not the end but the beginning of renewal. Each bare branch, though stripped of its greenery, holds within it the quiet dream of spring. What seems empty is not truly barren—it is resting, gathering, preparing.

We are asked not to rush the moment, for purpose dwells in pauses as surely as it does in movement. The path may twist, turn, and confuse us, yet with every step, it is still guiding us toward where we are meant to be. Even detours have meaning, even delays carry wisdom.

To honor the now is to see it as sacred—as sacred as a harvest, as breathtaking as a sunrise, as soul-stirring as a song. This season, in its stillness, is shaping you. The becoming is happening quietly, beneath the surface, where your eyes cannot yet see. And one day, when the time is right, you’ll recognize how even in the waiting, you were being made whole. 🍁🍂

Mitra ➡ Tips That Change Your Life ❤☀

10/01/2025

Home sits differently for me now

09/30/2025

Feeding the hungry heart. It’s universal.

This is my yellow purse of wanting. When a friend sent me its photograph, I thought it was beautiful. I imagined carrying it even though I don’t carry a purse because most are too heavy and I’d rather wear my old $2 wrist wallet, but in my imagined yellow purse life, I carry purses, particularly this purse. In my yellow purse life, carrying this purse makes my life better. People stop me on the street, they ooh, they ahh, they say what good taste you have. You must be a good person. A fashion icon.

The yellow purse started taking up brain real estate. Figuring out how to order it. Feeling the catch in my heart when I want something I don’t have. I wrote about it a few years ago in a piece called “The Blue Vest” in This Messy Magnificent Life. I wrote about it 40 years ago in a piece called “If Only I Had, Then I Would be Happy” in my first book, Feeding the Hungry Heart. And here I am, writing about it again.

If the thing keeps changing, it can’t be about the thing because if it was the answer, all it would take is one perfect thing. So this time I held off buying it and asked myself what I actually want when I want the yellow purse. And I realized that wanting a yellow purse isn’t any different than wanting my unavailable mother to be available. Or wanting the perfect partner. Or wanting success. Or a best friendship.

Because it’s only about wanting what we believe will fill us. Allow us finally to relax and be at peace. And that in turn is about contacting the part that doesn’t feel wanted and saying, I see you sweetheart and I want you. Forgive me for leaving so many times when I thought that green sweater or that man or finishing that book or those motorcycle boots were going to satisfy you.

We all experience yellow purses of wanting in different areas: The yellow purse of money. The yellow purse of success. The yellow purse of friendship. The yellow purse of intimacy with a partner. But while many of those may add sweetness to our lives, it’s never really about any of those. Or as a friend says, the thing is never the thing. It’s what’s below the thing. What’s below the wanting. Go there. Touch that. Feed your hungry heart. 💛

09/30/2025

Seasons change

09/30/2025

Chasing dreams

09/27/2025

Relationship. Me and we.

09/23/2025

Beginning again

09/23/2025

Coffee with mom

09/22/2025

Love