Angela Hill, Repatterning For Resilience

03/02/2024

Yes this is a thing. When surgery is absolutely necessary, and you've done your research on your surgeon and facility then you can fully surrender to it...

02/22/2024

Sometimes I'm ambivalent about social media, and I hardly ever post on my business pages because I'm not creating content and it's hard to find (or to create) content that speaks to the message that I now want to convey.

Repatterning and reparenting the the body, mind, and family system.

So much of it comes down to experiences that shift perception. And these guys get it!

10/03/2023

Imagine what kind of world we could have if all parents got this kind of support from the very start...

03/10/2023

Committed to the work.

We know you’re trying. We see you. ❤️

03/09/2023

There was a rift awhile back in a parenting community (that I'm not longer a part of) over the words "regulation" and "co-regulation". The thought was that this was about teaching children to shut down their emotions.

No, not at all...

It's about having the safety and connection for those emotions to flow so that they can be metabolized and hopefully, resolved. And this is a process that will happen over and over again.

It is lifelong learning. Sometimes we do this for ourselves through self-regulation, but we will continue to need other sources for co-regulation outside of those first and primary relationships where it all begins.

Parenting in Process 💕

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03/08/2023

An informative read.

Bottom line:
"Tennessee’s new law bolsters the case that anti-drag laws are antidemocratic, discriminatory and unconstitutional."

Protesters against a bill restricting drag shows march from a rally outside of the Tennessee Capitol in Nashville on Feb. 14, 2023. AP Photo/Jonathan MattiseOn March 2, 2023, Tennessee became the first state to enact a law restricting drag performances. This law is part of a larger push by Republica...

01/31/2023

If you're like me your news feed is full of memes about trauma, attachment wounds, healing, and resilience... I don't share many of them these days...

But I wanted to be sure to pass this one on.

And I will tell you that unraveling attachment/developmental trauma is a lifelong process, but it does get better!

Safe and loved. 🔒❤️

01/22/2023

I know that I cannot let in nourishment when I'm exhausted...

An inquiry. We will not move towards liberation from an exhausted state. It’s just not possible. We must rest. We Will Rest!

From my conversation on .the.wild last summer. The link is in bio to listen.

01/20/2023

Yep...

but almost all mental health professionals only apply it to kids with RAD and not their parents. Of course, it’s true for RAD kids. But it’s equally true for their disbelieved, maligned, and (in some situations) abused parents. How about therapists start validating the experiences of parents too?!?

01/10/2023

Sometimes, this is what resilience looks like.

🔃:

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12/05/2022

A friend just shared this page, and I'm loving it!

There's so much good stuff there, and this is just one of MANY high quality content posts. The kind of stuff I hope to have time to do someday soon when I'm done with school...

(I graduate in May).

I chose this because in the somatic world, and even in therapy in general, practitioners can have the unfortunate impact of shaming clients who are wordy, excited, or speedy in their process and in their need to share.

And underneath this is simply the need to be heard...

And a lot of intense feelings...

And unmet needs...

And wounds of not-enoughness...

As in, not enough relational nourishment.

And this can also bring up so much grief.

11/28/2022

Defenses, patterned over time start to look a lot like personality...

11/17/2022

Sharing to remember to use this quote in a presentation I'm doing for school...

"The parent-child connection is the most powerful mental health intervention known to mankind."
Bessel van der Kolk

Bessel van der Kolk is a psychiatrist, author, researcher and educator based in Boston, United States. Since the 1970s his research has been in the area of post-traumatic stress. He is an industry leader in studying and treating trauma. He is the author of The New York Times best seller, "The Body Keeps the Score". Here's a 9 minute clip of him talking about post-traumatic stress and 6 ways to heal it without medication: https://www.google.com/search?q=bessel+van+der+kolk&rlz=1C5CHFA_enNZ590NZ590&source=lnms&tbm=vid&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj044e07qn7AhVjw6ACHSu4CyoQ_AUoBHoECAIQBg&biw=949&bih=604&dpr=3.5 =ive&vld=cid:2b89dd8f,vid:ZoZT8-HqI64

11/16/2022

This fits so well for a macro practice presentation I'm working on for school.

I'm advocating for trauma-informed and family-centered child welfare that is focused on fostering joyful and connected experiences and policy change that supports families instead of waiting until they fall apart, separating them, and focusing on the child's "behavioral problems".

❤️

10/28/2022

Yesterday evening my 6 year old was repeatedly saying insulting and not-so-nice things to me. I found myself really fighting the urges to take it personally even though I knew better.

(I was tired and overwhelmed which is typical for me in this season of my life as an asynchronously developing middle aged graduate student and mom with post-COVID fatigue and brain fog 😁)

I knew that she was sick (not COVID this time), but I *thought* she was getting better. In the middle of night (listening to her labored breathing) it clicked that she was actually getting worse and that her behavior had been an expression of her physiological distress.

So today, I knew I had to clear my schedule and devote the bulk of my time to two things: taking care of myself and pampering her.

I acknowledge my privilege to do this thanks to a flexible schedule, understanding clients, and my husband's income.

While I cannot take away my sweet little girl's physical symptoms, I can let her rest in my love. She hasn't said anything "nasty" to me at all today, and even if she did, I would totally understand. I'm not spiraling into the story that I'm not enough for her even though it is true that she needed more from me in order to get through this...

Love and connection always win. The thing is we don't always have the bandwidth for it, and so in order to flip the script we have to actually create more space for ourselves to show up as loving parents. As a social worker, I know that the system we live in does not support this and there are many barriers for most families. As a self-healer, somatic educator and parent support worker I am *trying* 😉 to pace my way toward being part of changing that even though I know that the change will be slow to come. As a matter of fact, this is intergenerational work.

What stories are you telling yourself about your kiddo, your parenting, or your capacity for self care in a world on the verge of nuclear disaster? How can you show up for yourself anyway even in just the smallest way? What are you needing in this moment?

10/28/2022

I haven't been sharing much lately since all I really have time to do is to re-post other people's content.

But since I shared something body/nervous system based, my social worker self wants to share something with my systems thinking hat on.

And here it is.

This is the main reason I am in graduate school - to be skilled and legitimate to really help families. I'd like to help families stay together. Our current system intervenes only once the family has fallen apart, and though that is changing, it is slow... And I want to help it change faster by making trauma-informed parenting support more easily accessible (not just to adoptive and foster families).

A needed paradigm shift in child welfare.

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