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Love your Body Love Yourself Find Freedom with Food and Peace with your Body through compassion and connection to yourself .💕💕💕 I can show you how!!

You can
- feel good in your body.
- be proud of what you look like.
- eat yummy foods that nourish you.
- stop the constant mind chatter about food! You don’t have to be obsessed with your body and food in order to look Good!!! You can be a normal eater who stops eating when you're full!!!!

04/21/2026

I was working with a woman who has to eat a very specific way because of health issues.

Time and again, she was eating foods that were hurting her body - and way more of them than she needed.

I asked her why. Why do you keep doing this to yourself?

Something cracked open.

It wasn’t shame. It wasn’t weakness. Underneath the eating was rebellion. A part of her saying *don’t you tell me what to eat. Don’t you tell me what to do.* A part searching for autonomy in the only place she could find it.

I see this with so many women. The ones who spend their lives people pleasing, caretaking, making sure everyone else is fed and safe and okay. The ones who’ve been swallowing their own wants for decades.

Food becomes the one place they get to fight back. The one place they get to say no.

Except they’re not fighting anyone else. They’re only hurting themselves.

When she saw that, the door opened. Because now we weren’t working with shame or willpower. We were working with the part of her that finally found a way to scream. And that part doesn’t need to be punished. She needs to be heard.

This is where compassion becomes the actual doorway out.

If you’re hurting yourself with food and can’t figure out why, you might be a woman who’s never been allowed to want what she wants out loud. Your body is telling you something.

If you’re serious about solving your food challenge, find link in bio for Complimentary Food consult.

I’ll personally review it and see if it’s a fit.

A dear friend told me I looked like a banana split, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since.When he was a boy, a Carv...
04/17/2026

A dear friend told me I looked like a banana split, and I’ve been thinking about it ever since.

When he was a boy, a Carvel opened three blocks from his house. On opening day, he got his picture taken with a banana split on his head and got the ice cream for free. He was that little-boy kind of happy where everything feels like a miracle and the world is just exactly right. And then, decades later, he looked at me and said: *”You remind me of that. The sweet mounds. The sparkliness. The richness.”*

I giggled. I mean, what do you even do with that? But it was the sweetest thing anyone has said to me in a long time.

For just a second though, something almost happened. My brain started running his words through that invisible checklist (sweet mounds? is that... good?) before I caught myself and just let it land.

We do this all the time without realizing it. Someone offers us their pure, uncomplicated delight and we immediately start interrogating it, deciding whether it qualifies, whether it came in the right package, whether it meets some standard we absorbed from diet culture before we ever had a chance to question it. We’re so used to compliments being tied to thinness or productivity or looking a certain way that when one arrives wrapped in pure joy instead, we almost miss it entirely.

He wasn’t seeing me through a critical eye. He was seeing me through his happiest memory, and that is someone’s whole heart.

What he gave me wasn’t a compliment in the traditional sense. It was a window into the moment in his life when everything felt perfect, and I was that to him. I keep thinking about what it means to be truly seen by someone, not through the lens of how you measure up, but through the lens of what brings them the most joy.

That’s the kind of seeing worth letting in.

When was the last time someone was genuinely delighted by you, and you actually let it in? đŸŒș

Drop it in the comments. I really want to know.

Effort works in every other area of your life — you put in time and energy, and things move.So why doesn’t it work with ...
04/05/2026

Effort works in every other area of your life — you put in time and energy, and things move.
So why doesn’t it work with food?

Why does more effort lead to more control, and then eventually less of both?
Because it feels like the answer should be: try harder, be better, stay consistent.
But if that worked, it would have worked by now.

And you wouldn’t still be thinking about this or feel stuck here.
This pattern doesn’t respond to effort the way everything else in your life does. That’s why you keep ending up back in the same place.

Once you understand why, you stop fighting the wrong thing.
Link in comments.

She came to work on bingeing — stop it, fix it, get it under control.We went deep together. And one session, something s...
04/03/2026

She came to work on bingeing — stop it, fix it, get it under control.

We went deep together. And one session, something shifted. We got to a place I can only describe as the wound, that tender, terrified part of her that had been running the show all along.

In that space, her inner child looked up and said: Don’t take away my food.
Not “I’m addicted” or “I have no willpower.”
Don’t take away my food.

Everything changed in that moment. Because we weren’t talking about food anymore. We were talking about what food had been holding — the only thing that felt safe, the one place she could go when nothing else felt like hers.

You can’t fix that with a meal plan or willpower your way past it. You have to go to the place where food got recruited in the first place and ask what it’s actually protecting.

If you’ve tried everything and still find yourself back in the same cycle, it’s because you’ve been working on the symptom while the wound stays untouched.

From Obsession to Freedom is where that changes.
$3

Link in comments.
-Hartmann

There’s a specific moment at night, when everything slows down, that keeps this cycle going.You’ve already eaten, you’re...
04/01/2026

There’s a specific moment at night, when everything slows down, that keeps this cycle going.

You’ve already eaten, you’re not physically hungry, and you still find yourself in the kitchen. You open something, take a bite, and you’re already annoyed with yourself.

You tell yourself you’ll stop. You don’t.

That moment feels small, but it carries a lot of weight. It’s where the shame builds and where the “I’ll start over tomorrow” promise gets made again.

Your body is looking for relief, and food is the fastest way it knows how to get it. Until that changes, the behavior won’t.

Understanding nutrition, knowing what to eat, even feeling motivated — none of it touches this moment.
From Obsession to Freedom breaks down what’s actually driving it.

Link in comments.

You follow through, show up, and handle things most people avoid, and with food, none of that seems to matter.The career...
03/31/2026

You follow through, show up, and handle things most people avoid, and with food, none of that seems to matter.
The career, the relationships, the hard things you’ve pushed through — all of it built through intelligence and commitment. And then at night, you’re back in the kitchen wondering why none of that applies here.

That’s not a character flaw. The same system that drives performance everywhere else is the thing keeping you stuck here. It runs on control, and with food, that control keeps tightening the cycle.

Every time you try harder, it pushes back harder.

I wrote From Obsession to Freedom for the person who has built everything else and can’t figure out why this one thing won’t move. It’s $3 and you can read it in one sitting.

Link in comments.

With the storms in Maui, the ocean’s off limits right now
So we took it to the mountain instead.Yo-yos, sunset, and time...
03/27/2026

With the storms in Maui, the ocean’s off limits right now


So we took it to the mountain instead.

Yo-yos, sunset, and time with Aspen.

Honestly, these are the moments I care about most.

Maui Parents and Teachers:Seabury Hall Hosts Educational Night on Building Body Confidence & Healthy Relationships with ...
03/09/2026

Maui Parents and Teachers:

Seabury Hall Hosts Educational Night on Building Body Confidence & Healthy Relationships with Food

Makawao, Maui — March 11, 2026 — Ê»Ai Pono Treatment Center will host an educational evening for parents and educators titled “Building Body Confidence & Healthy Relationships with Food” on Tuesday, March 11 at 6:00 p.m. at Sebaury Hall’s ‘A‘ali‘ikĆ«honua Creative Arts Center (ACAC). The event is free and open to all parents and educators.

The evidence-based presentation will address the growing impact of diet culture and social media on adolescents’ mental health, academic performance, and self-worth. The presentation is designed to equip adults with practical tools to support healthy conversations about food and body image at home and in school.

“One in five teens shows signs of disordered eating, and hospital visits for eating disorders have more than doubled in just four years—but early intervention works, and you have more power than you realize,” said Marla Mervis-Hartmann, author and the evening’s speaker.

“This evidence-based presentation will equip you to recognize warning signs, navigate conversations about food and body without causing harm, and create a home environment where your child can thrive,” Mervis-Hartman said.

The evening will include an educational lecture, personal recovery stories, interactive discussion, and actionable strategies families can implement immediately. Community members are encouraged to attend this important and timely conversation. No registration is required.

Fourteen years ago today, Olaf Hartmann and I were married in the Bamboo Forest on Maui.Back then, love felt big and bea...
02/27/2026

Fourteen years ago today, Olaf Hartmann and I were married in the Bamboo Forest on Maui.

Back then, love felt big and beautiful and full of promise. What I understand now is that marriage is built in the quiet, ordinary days. It’s built in staying present, in growing up together, in leaning in when it would be easier to pull away.

Fourteen years later, I’m grateful for the life we’ve created, for the family we’ve built, and for a love that has deepened with time.

14 years today. đŸ€

Fourteen years ago today we were married in the Bamboo Forest on Maui.Back then, love felt big and beautiful and full of...
02/27/2026

Fourteen years ago today we were married in the Bamboo Forest on Maui.

Back then, love felt big and beautiful and full of promise. What I understand now is that marriage is built in the quiet, ordinary days. It’s built in staying present, in growing up together, in leaning in when it would be easier to pull away.

Fourteen years later, I’m grateful for the life we’ve created, for the family we’ve built, and for a love that has deepened with time.

14 years today. đŸ€

There’s a lot happening in the world right now.And I had the thought: is this the wrong time to invite women into expans...
02/26/2026

There’s a lot happening in the world right now.
And I had the thought: is this the wrong time to invite women into expansion?

Does wanting more right now mean I lack solidarity with people who are suffering?

I am currently taking a Nervous system class with .ann.johnson and this is what she shared so beautifully (paraphrased)

-Solidarity with deep mutual suffering doesn’t help anyone. It just depreciates our ability to act, engage, advocate, and be present when it’s our turn to show up.
Feeling bad all the time isn’t empathy. It’s an addiction to proving you care.-

The world doesn’t need more burnt out, dysregulated women. It needs more grounded ones. Women who can hold reality and still create beauty inside it.

The How Good Can I Stand It? Challenge
10 days. Free. Starting March 4th.

You’re allowed to care deeply and still build boldly. You’re allowed to call in more stability, joy, and wealth — even while the world feels imperfect.

I’m not waiting for the world to calm down before I live fully.

Link in bio to join.

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You can - feel good in your body. - be proud of what you look like. - eat yummy foods that nourish you. - stop the constant mind chatter about food! I can show you how!! You don’t have to be obsessed with your body and food in order to look Good!!! You can be a normal eater who stops eating when you're full!!!!