09/25/2025
Sweet girl,
I know you donāt feel safe. I know you learned too early that the world could be cruel, that your body could be used, that silence kept you alive. I know you believed love was something you had to earn by giving, by shrinking, by surrendering yourself.
But Iām here now. Iāve lived through the chaos you couldnāt understand back then. And I need you to know; you were never a burden. You were never too much. You were never unworthy.
You thought survival meant control .. giving people what they wanted so you could get what you needed. You thought peace came through submission. You thought your body was your only currency. That wasnāt love, baby girl. That was survival.
Iāve spent the last five years doing the work you always deserved someone to do for you .. sitting with your pain, peeling back the lies, learning to hold space for our tears. I know itās been terrifying. I know we wanted to quit. I know it cost us relationships we thought would last forever. But I promise you: all of it was leading us here.
Right now, the hardest thing weāre unlearning is conditional love. That idea that we only deserve love if we give enough, behave enough, sacrifice enough. No. You deserve love simply because you exist. You always did.
And I want you to hear this, really let it sink in: you are brilliant. You are funny. Your laugh is magic. Your smile is radiant with your beautiful gap and all. You are not broken, not a fraud, not a servant to anyoneās needs. You are a soul in expansion.
Healing isnāt perfect, it isnāt pretty. Itās shadow work, tears, boundaries, walking away when every part of you wants to stay. But I need you to know, you made it. You survived. And now, we get to live.
I told my little self I will not silence ourselves any longerā¦the Phoenix is rising