Blue Heron Healing Arts

04/13/2026

I am moderating a panel on Neurodiversity in the Workplace at the Conference on World Affairs tomorrow, April 14th. Free, but preregistration is required. Join us! Link in the comments.

03/17/2026

Two Relational Unmasking support groups starting soon. These well loved groups offer neurodivergent and questioning adults exploration of authenticity with feedback from group members. Online group for all genders starts Mar 27. In-person group for women and gender non conforming adults starts Mar 31 in Lafayette. Both groups are 4-6p for 6 weeks. Link in comment below.

12/05/2025

Yes!

We track arousal cues in the face and body because they reveal much more than their narratives can alone.

What partners say must be taken with a grain of salt. They're susceptible to errors in memory and perception, as well as the desire to stretch the truth to protect their own self-interest.

A partner's micromovements and reflexive behaviors can either refute or support their conscious narrative, giving us a clearer picture of what is really going on.

12/05/2025

Unmasking during the holidays: a guide in the link below.

Unmasking during the holidays December 3, 2025 Jenny Kessem Blurred holiday lights against a dark background Many neurodivergent people approach the holidays with very strong feelings. Some of us love them: the sensory delights, the rituals, the decorations, the fun, the time off. But many of us app...

08/26/2025

Two new Relational Unmasking groups starting in September, one in person and one online. These well-loved support groups support exploration of authenticity for adults who have masked and are interested in being more themselves. Neurodiversity affirming! Thank you for spreading the word.

03/20/2025

If it's more important to be right than to be a team, your relationship will not win.

Don’t approach your fights like you’re litigating a case. Even when you disagree, you and your partner are on the same side. You win when your partner wins and vice versa.

Wave the flag of friendliness in your arguments. Use humor, aim for a win-win solution, and relieve your partner immediately if you notice you’ve hurt them.

12/24/2024

Relational Unmasking Groups for Neurodivergent/ Questioning/ Autistic/ ADHD adults starting in January!

ON-LINE all genders adults group
Wednesdays 4p-5:30
Jan 22 - Feb 26 with Jenny Epstein Kessem

IN-PERSON women and gender non-conforming adults group
Fridays 4:00 - 5:30
Jan 17 - Feb 21 with Bianca
Neurodiversity Community Center
100 W Cleveland St, Lafayette, CO 80026

$450-300 sliding scale for 6-week series, we are aiming to close registration by Jan 10

12/08/2024

Attending to needs of limbic brain. Very simple words best. Do not defend yourself in this scenario, it will not go well because it is the wrong timing.

When an emotional state remains unaltered for a significant period of time, it enters into long-term memory.

If partners want to prevent negative long-term memories from forming, rapid repair is critical. Tending to a partner’s pain quickly is far more important than finding the “right words” to say sorry. Apologies don’t have to be eloquent. They just need to be said.

12/08/2024

Ginkgo leaves in fall. How beautiful grief and loss can be.

09/21/2024

I love creative humans.

08/04/2024

Neurodiversity is everywhere! Thanks for spreading the word about this group, a safe place for late identified adults to explore what neurodivergent masking is, and what unmasking feels like in a group setting.
Now accepting members for two groups, each a 4 week series:
-Virtual group Wednesdays at 4p, beginning September 4th.
-In-person group in Lafayette, Fridays at 4p, beginning September 6th.

07/28/2024